It’s A Woman Thing

So last night, I had to unwind before going to bed. Work this week was not a pleasant experience. (For some reason I feel like work should be fun! It shouldn’t be work, I don’t know where I’ve got this odd idea)

My Oprah magazine came in the mail and I thought I would read a bit to focus on something else!

I found an article on Menopause and thought I would see if there’s anything in it to help explain WTH my life feels the way it does πŸ˜‚πŸ˜† I was genuinely curious.

So, to give a little background. Thursday in heading in the door to work and finding out there isn’t an office – I felt this crazy surge of rage (and freak I’m not an angry person) and an image popped into my head of myself “throwing my metal water bottle at the speed of light smashing through the big glass window” in our main front office-WTH is wrong with me??

Anyway, back to my magazine and article on menopause. Did you know, unreasonable anger is a symptom of menopause?? When I read that, I thought you gotta be kidding me!! All this time I wondered if I was going crazy or if I was a bad person or somehow I’ve been crazy all along. Trust me, these are odd thoughts for me as a therapist but this totally makes sense to me.

There have been soooo many times at the checkout or in traffic or at work that I just feel outrageously angry and I never knew this is normal for a woman going through menopause.

First off, it might just be lucky that we don’t have many menopausal women going postal out in public cause I’ve managed to control my flash of anger but how is everyone else doing it?

Holy cow, wouldn’t it be nice if someone let us know this is what to expect when we will never be expecting?? Hopefully one day my hormones will settle down and I’ll be my normal self again.

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History of Brave Women

Hello Friends!

Happy Thursday! I was listening to a podcast this morning by Rachel Hollis-interviewing Lisa Kleypas discussing her writing career and historical events that shape women’s lives. I thought I would share some history of a brave woman I know.

My grandma Lindberg, Norma R Lindberg was born in 1920 and died in 2009 so I had time as an adult to get to know my grandma Lindberg. My other grandma, Faye H Dana died in 1982 and I didn’t get to know her as well as an adult; I was only 17 when she passed away from cancer.

My grandma waited until she was about 80 to share with me some of her history which I think is so fascinating. My grandma (I’ll just refer to her as Norma now) had a beau in high school- Merrill Taylor, but he went to war in I believe 1942. Norma was left at home and she is a beauty. She caught the attention of Wayne Call (Merrill’s friend) and he started courting her. One evening he invited her to attend a family party with him and he unexpectedly announced at the party that they were engaged (he had not actually asked her to marry him). So Norma felt pressured to accept him as her fiance even though she was still in love with Merrill. They married and soon therafter were expecting my mother, Carolyn.

My mother was born in 1944 and soon after her birth, Norma decided she would divorce Wayne because she was not happy and still in love with Merrill.Β  Norma lived in a small religious community in Wyoming and considering the culture at that time, she probably worried about judgments and people wagging their tongues but she stood up for herself. She was one brave woman and now alone with a child.

Merrill came home from the war and soon reconnected with Norma. They married in 1946 and soon added two more children to their little family. After the war, Merrill got a job as a lineman and traveled often (I’ve heard this, not really sure if that is correct. A lineman is someone who climbs power poles and repairs or installs power lines in areas). Merrill was doing this work in Kern California when he was electrocuted and killed in 1950. Norma was again alone with children.

Norma had always been an industrious woman. I am not sure if this is when she started working for (?) but she worked almost all her adult life. She lived with her father at some point while getting on her feet as a single parent. These were difficult times to begin with (after World War II), but a single mother with three children had to have been daunting.

She later is reacquainted with Wilton Lindberg, (also a friend of Merrill and Wayne- it’s a small community and these men refer to themselves as “The Swedes”) who is a widower-his young wife died after the birth of their second daughter. Norma and Wilton married and added a baby girl to the family. My mother is oldest, then Jackie (Wilton’s oldest daughter), then Irene and Jed (Merrill and Norma’s children), then Sherry (Wilton’s youngest daughter), and Laurie (daughter of Norma and Wilton). My wonderful grandmother Norma kept working throughout her life but was also an amazing cook, gardener (at one time had a acre garden), and housekeeper. Her food-canning and cooking are renown-especially a recipe for Red Velvet Cake. She always entered food or handsewn/sewing machine items (she was a talented quilter and crocheter) in the fair and often won first place ribbons.

Norma was very frugal, hard working, and saved all the money she could. When she passed away, she left her children and myself (I was included because I am the only living offspring of my mother, father, and siblings-passed away many years previous) but I am so blessed to know my grandma as an adult and appreciate how brave she is and how hard she worked to take care of herself and her children. I hope you appreciate hearing the history of a brave woman I admire-my grandmother Norma R Lindberg.

Sister Pride

Hey Friends!

I’m sharing some pride in my sister, let me tell you all about it:

Last night I was scrolling through Facebook and found a post from a distant relative. It appeared she had taken a picture of the back/behind of two women in swim attire and proceeded to shame them based on their weight and appearance; calling them “visual pollution”….so offensive right? I was surprised to see this coming from someone I know.

I then scrolled down and read a comment my sister Tenae posted; saying she found this sad that a woman would take a picture of other women, denigrating their appearance and weight, calling this body shaming (which it is) and applauding these women for just being themselves despite society standard of beauty (which we all know is jacked up). I was so proud of my sister to stand up to a bully and speak truth. I commented on her comment that I agreed with her and we needed to all be kind to each other.

We then texted each other at the exact same time, “what is the deal”??? (Great minds right?) πŸ˜‚

After that, this distantly related woman deleted BOTH our comments and I was like WTH??

But my friends, I’ve never been so proud to call Tenae my sister as I was in that moment that she spoke up for someone she didn’t even know and called out bad behavior! Bravo sweet sister! I love you! So proud of you!

Kindness is always in style my friends…pass it on.

Bullying and Body Shaming are never ok.

Celebrate with Shorts

Hello Friends!

How was your weekend? I hope you and Monday are making peace with each other πŸ™‚ Me and Mondays don’t always get along that why I wish this for you LOL

I thought I would share a new found discovery: I haven’t worn shorts in about 16 years. I think I was always a little self conscious and felt awkward about my legs but the last year or so I realize I need to let that go!

(Last year as I began my blog, I started wearing more dresses in the summer, kind of letting my legs out in the open) and I realize its fun and there is nothing wrong with my legs πŸ™‚

So this year for my birthday, I got a gift card from my employer and I bought a straw tassel hat and a yellow striped ruffle sleeve shirt at Target and paired it with some destroyed denim shorts (the best deal ever for $3 at JCPenney)! Then I took a picture with my shorts on AND went out to dinner with the hubs with my shorts on! Is that celebrating or what??! I feel super accomplished taking this step and being less judgmental of myself.

Anyone want to join me and be less judgmental?? All aboard my self love train! Everyone is welcome and there is room! πŸ™‚

Real Talk about Hair Loss

Hello friends!

I thought today would be somewhat different. I want to share my experience with hair loss.

In 2012 I was diagnosed with Hashimotos disease and my thyroid surgically removed. Back in 2004 I was diagnosed with hypothyroid and I think things went downhill (health wise) after that, although the last couple of years have not been bad. I’ve struggled with low energy, low motivation, anxiety, depression, muscle aches, weight gain, digestion problems, menstrual problems, mood swings, hair loss, hair thinning, skin problems, insomnia, irritability….yada yada…seems like the list goes on and on…(oh and forgetfulness or brain fog).

In 2016 I started seeing a naturepath and eating gluten free. I also discovered being soy free has benefits; along with taking natural supplements and hormones. Early 2018 my hair started falling out and I reduced my thyroid medication a tad along with adding Zinc and Iron to my supplemental regime (along with special shampoo, which BTW DOES NOT WORK). For a few months my hair stopped falling out and I felt encouraged.

A few weeks ago, my hair began falling out again and who knows what the problem is this time. I don’t think I can go lower on my thyroid medication and it might be something nutritional IDK! Anyway I sort of felt like shaving my head, really it would be less stressful to worry about my hair falling out. I think it would be easier to wear a wig and just whip that thing on every morning. It sure would take the complication out of getting ready every day….:)

I told one of my cute IG friends about my ideas and she just happens to sell Halo Couture. It’s an easy apply hair extensions products. Human hair is woven into a type of hat thing that lays right above your neck with a invisible wire going over the top of your head. It really is amazing.

She just happened to have some at her house so I popped over and tried on two items: an 18″ Halo and a topper (fits on top of my head to create the look of fullness), both in dark brown. I was feeling a need to change, had been contemplating shaving my head and getting a wig but buying these two options would allow me to continue keeping my hair whatever happens and the two pieces together make my hair look very full! After I tried them on, I was hooked and my worry assuaged. (I was also super sick of curling my hair every day, cause my own hair is very fine and thin; doesn’t keep a curl and would not match my previous Halo if I didn’t curl it). These two new Halo’s are straight. Win for me, win for my hair! For right now I’m not shaving my head, I just got hair four inches longer than before!

So if anyone out there is struggling with thinning hair or hair loss due to aging or disease or hormones, please don’t be discouraged. There is a lot you can do these days to address or hide hair loss and it doesn’t have to devastate your life. I know the last few weeks I’ve been kind of freaking out cause I thought my hair loss was changing for the better. Realizing it’s not and that my disease will go back and forth between healing and attack (autoimmune disease) can be discouraging and feel hopeless.

Please if you have any questions for me, let me know. Don’t be overwhelmed by it all.

MoviePass Review (and other musings on being a woman)

Hello Friends!

Happy Weekend! What’s everyone doing??

I did something interesting this morning.

It all started about a week ago. I’m a huge movie buff (I think you can already tell, sometimes I dress to match my movies LOL) I had heard my co worker’s friends had a movie app with unlimited movies, I thought that might be my THING. So I cruised through the app store on my iPhone and tada! Up popped MoviePass…I signed up to pay $9.95 a month in exchange for free pass to a movie a day. Sounds about my speed right??

It took about a week to get our MoviePass card (you download the app and then MoviePass sends you a card, like a credit card-with my name and a number) you register your card on your app, then head to a theatre. There are many in my area affiliated with MoviePass. Outside the theatre, I check in (on my app) for the movie and time I want to see, then head inside to pay at the kiosk for my seat.

We saw the new Tomb Raider movie with Alicia Vikander at 10:30am (I know I vowed to lay in my bed til lunchtime but I was excited to use my MoviePass-haha). It was a fun movie (lots of action and twists in the plot) except I kept comparing it to Lara Croft: Tomb Raider with Angelina Jolie. I just think Angelina Jolie is a badA compared to Alicia Vikander. Jolie has this attitude and she’s sort of like a superhero-I mean she is behind sled dogs racing a crumbling structure without a sled?? Nobody else knows how to figure out the riddles except her (well Alicia does that too, that’s true)-but I can’t give things away for those of you who haven’t seen it. It’s fun and worth seeing. I’ve included a pic of me and hubs as we left the theatre πŸ™‚

I sit and wonder how can Angelina or Alicia kick butt like they do in movies and be so freakin tiny? I think that is one thing that contributes to women/girls perception that thinness is more important than everything else. Wonder Woman is pretty thin too, have you seen Gal Gadot? Regular women do not look like that; I think Hollywood does women a disservice. I have a friend that does crossfit and really I think she could be Tomb Raider. She has muscles, like real muscles. I think if Hollywood wants to show me a crimefighting, world saving, smart woman; please oh please let her be real. I know lots of real women that save the world and are smart and fight crime. Let’s have a real woman as a role model OK?

Sobbing Hysterically

Hello friends!

Have any of you seen “Something’s Gotta Give”?? I know it’s an old movie but (spoiler here!) in the middle when he is a schmuck and she gets hurt- spending 10 minutes of the movie sobbing dramatically (excellently I might add) which I love every time I watch it and giggle the whole way through! It’s one of my favorite movies!

It was also International Women’s Day yesterday and I thought this is a great movie for women! The heroine in the movie is smart, provides for herself, is amazingly funny, beautiful, talented, and everyone wants to be around her! It’s one of my favorite movies, you gotta check it out!

Have a happy weekend everyone! Thanks for reading!

(Enclosed are pictures of my two daughters and I- all of us fierce women πŸ˜‰