Dark Shadows

Hello friends!

Happy Monday!

I took a break from work for a few days and took a much needed road trip but now I’m back!

Before my days off, (exactly four days before) I was pulled over by one of our finest police officers due to a confusion about my speed in a school zone. Confusion because I was sure I had not been speeding and he said “I clocked you at 26” and laughed 😂😂

I didn’t really think it was THAT funny- my life has been difficult lately (although I didn’t think I was particularly mournful that morning) so without a word I gave him my registration and license while waiting for the bad news 😳😥

He came back to my car reassuring me…? “Now Ms (F) this is just a warning, you don’t have to do anything” (a warning? I’m confused) and he continued “you don’t need to do anything, just be careful and try to have a better day” he said very kindly.

I’m still confused and a little shell shocked- what happened that he just gave me a warning? I actually have never got a warning before- I usually deserve the speeding tickets I’ve got (6 years ago was the last time) but I didn’t cry or anything?

But I’m grateful that someone somewhere knew I needed a break or a warning or just a kind word. Thank you kind police officer.

Just to make sure I’m not looking overly haggard or pitiful, I bought some under eye concealer cause sometimes you just need to look like EVERYTHING IS FINE 😊

Enclosed are two different pictures of me with “Bye Bye Undereye” concealer from IT Cosmetics.

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Grateful Streak Continues…..

Hello Friends!

If you’re new to reading my blog, I’ve dedicated my last three or so weeks to shopping my closet instead of new wardrobe items to focus on gratitude before Christmas.

Today I’m sharing several things: First I had a somewhat lengthy and irritating debate with a client yesterday (he might not be willing or open to change) which can be normal in my field….yet….I have all these resources, education, training, and support which could help my client and it is super frustrating if someone is in front of this wonderful buffet and not willing to eat. GRRR that ticks me off, especially when I care about a client.  So yesterday after the lengthy, complicated, and challenging debate, I thought to myself….I wouldn’t be the therapist I am today without my challenging teenagers from the past. Boy we had our challenges and honestly there really is not a name a client can call me that I think (pbsttt, I’ve heard worse!) Which is actually really helpful as a therapist. I’ve had experiences with my own children that at times mimic what my clients or their parents struggle and it’s helped me a great deal.

So I called my daughter last night and said thank you for doing what you did as a teenager and being the smart a$$ she still is, she said “Your welcome” LOL, we had a good laugh but all seriousness, all these experiences I’ve had…some terrible, some painful, some difficult, some so daunting…have all benefitted me personally and as a therapist. For that I am truly thankful.

I’m also thankful that yesterday hubs and I purchased him a new car (it’s actually used, but you know what I mean). I’ve never seen him so happy (his old car has 250,000 miles, so many things don’t work anymore). I’m so thankful that together, we can get him a car to make him happy and make his work life and commute more enjoyable and dependable. How blessed am I???

Now for my regularly scheduled fashion gratitude post:

I’ve had most of these items some time: my black long sleeve shirt from Costco, beaded jacket and layered necklace from Chicos, gray jeans from Express, and leopard boots and faux fur coat from Target. I never thought about pairing the typical way I wear this jacket along with the leopard, but the leopard just makes everything pop in a new way! The different textures between faux fur, embroidered/embellished jacket, and layered necklaces is so luxe. Seriously I’ve had this jacket and layered necklace for at least five years, I’m guessing. How fun is it to wear anew??

CLOSET SHOPPING IS DEFINITELY PAYING OFF RIGHT???!

Inspiration Outfit

Hello Friends and happy Monday!

I normally don’t like Mondays, I mean they come every week and I really should make peace with them but ew, I would just rather not have Monday part of my lineup. I know that’s unreasonable and that would mean Tuesday would be the same as Monday now is, but honestly it’s not a rational feeling I have about Monday. I’m sorry I just can’t let it go LOL (I really like the weekend to be honest-don’t we all?)

Anyway, I’m doing more CLOSET SHOPPING!! YAY!

This week I have some inspiration from a fellow IG fashion boss babe @oysterstopearls- Shannon, some time ago wore this gorgeous blue cardigan and I was in love! I looked up on LTK and she did not link the cardigan (it was lovely, trust me)….

And then I realized DUH I have a frosty blue cardigan (duster actually) that I don’t wear often enough and it’s so pretty and velvety and soft (all the reasons I gave hubs when I bought it at Nordstrom Rack last year (or year before?). And I got so excited to wear it in a new way! This is the fun of closet shopping! It’s as if I’m wearing new clothes when I wear something I haven’t wore for awhile, plus it’s very economical! 😉

So I paired my duster with a black long sleeve top, black leggings, my two year old OTK Macy’s black boots, a black and silver choker (it’s from Chicos- one of my older items-it’s a four piece necklace set. You can wear the choker with three other strands or wear each on it’s own, so fun) and I added my leopard bag for that ooh baby pop!

All of these items are older in my closet yet fun and trendy and I’ve got lots of compliments today. Try out shopping your closet, you will not regret!

Closet Creativity

Hello friends! And welcome to another installment of my thriftiness/thankfulness marathon labeled as closet creativity! I hope my efforts to shop my closet help you think of ways you can also do the same!

Today I’m sharing a new (yet old) outfit I created from my closet and I really had some fun! First I snagged my blue floral pants by Loft (purchased last year or year before) a T shirt from Target, my striped cardigan (newer but not in the last two months) and I was stuck at what to do with my feet! These pants are normally a summer staple and wear with one or two open toe shoes but it’s not very warm although I still wanted to do something fun! Then I remembered my glitter pumps I purchased last year from White House Black Market and realized my cute patterned socks (Amazon) would match perfectly with the turquoise detail running through the pants!

All day I was mesmerized by the sparkle and floral of my shoes/socks/pants. I’m so glad I decided to shop my closet because I have somewhat forgot about these glitter pumps and it being the holiday season, glitter is so trendy and fun-not to mention adding the socks which is such a fun look I’ve seen on many of my favorite Instagrammers!

I have a typically difficult job as a therapist in a residential setting; most of my clients are difficult, complicated, and struggle with powerful mental illness and/or addiction. It’s normal for someone in my field to develop distractions or ways to make sure they don’t burn out. I have to say that my glitter heels were a much needed distraction the day I wore them.

Normally many people see fashion as frivolous and silly, but my blog, my Instagram, being creative with my closet, wearing glittery heels to work, this is what helps me avoid burn out and this friends: This Is Real World Problems.

Thanks for reading and being on my journey with me!the real world news

Renewed Thriftiness and Thankfulness

Hello Friends!

How are you all doing? Did you survive Thanksgiving weekend and Black Friday?? I try to get a lot or most of my Christmas shopping done that weekend to spend more time enjoying the holiday season, but I still have six gifts left to purchase; which is not too bad out of 22 people we (me and hubs) have on our gift list this year. I am so blessed with a wonderful family and great friends that I am happy to be out shopping for them.

Although my thanksgiving was less than ideal (see my “Thanksgiving Debacle” post) I am still very thankful for time with my family (husband, children, grandchildren) and to have days off from work. It was a much needed break.

In pondering thankfulness, I want to focus my next month of posts (from now until Christmas) on styling clothing items I already have, instead of new items. I think this thankfulness will challenge me to be creative with the clothing I have and push me to think more outside the box in using my older items! Think: Shop Your Closet!

So let the days of thriftiness and thanksgiving begin!! Join me if you would like; comment how you will be participating in my special thankfulness leading up to Christmas!

Thankful for a Broke Down TV

Hello friends!

I am just sitting down after a great dinner celebrating my daughter in law’s birthday.

We made a enchilada casserole and bought chips and salsa from our favorite restaurant.

(On the Home front our smart tv died and that is the biggest blessing this holiday!) 😆

We spent the whole evening talking and playing games (drinking a lot of Coke apparently 😂) and watching the grandchildren play with each other and the slime we got from Costco(they get along so well and have since they were way littles) they say the funniest things and I love to be around my family.

Three members weren’t here tonight and we missed them but we all get a chance again on Thursday (Thanksgiving)! Now normally I don’t much like Thanksgiving because I’m tired of cooking for days and doing dishes for hours (I would rather chat and play with my family) so this year we ordered our dinner (pick up Thursday around 11am) and the TV is dead!

That means prime time play time with family! We have games and crafts (with some treats) planned for all day and I can’t be more excited! Time with my family- that’s what I’m grateful this holiday. (That and our dead TV!) SCORE!

Who’d thought it!!?