Fairly Fairy Tale Distorted

Hello friends!

Happy Monday!

I hope all of you had a good weekend! I had fun with my family in our annual Halloween party. Each of us makes some kind of ghoulish food that is actually edible and it’s super fun. We had this party on Saturday and it really made my weekend ๐Ÿ™‚

I thought I would share something interesting I discovered last week. My granddaughter was doing her daily reading (she is a 4th grader and is supposed to practice her reading every day). She read Snow White aloud to me and then asked me what I thought.

Me being a therapist all of a sudden realized! Holy crap, what’s up with fairy tales? Here is a story of a woman who daily asks her mirror “who is the fairest”? as if that’s a contest one person can win. Then one day as she has aged, her mirror lets her know, there’s a new contestant and BTW you lose now, game over!

Really??? And to top that off, said older woman decides to pursue murder as a way of solving her problem of aging and not being the “fairest of them all”???

This sounds like a modern day problem, but I’ve heard this story forever. I’m just now getting a little bit of insight that we have some jacked up ideas in our culture…like women need to be beautiful and number one beautiful all their lives, like it’s a contest and winner take all, even to the extreme. That actually doesn’t sound like a fairy tale, that sounds like things I’ve heard for years. But this crap is what we’re also teaching our young people.

My granddaughter asked me what I thought of her reading and I told her it’s actually ok for women to age and it’s ok for someone to be younger and prettier than me. It’s a normal part of life and I’m happy anyway even if there is someone younger, (like everyone under 55) and prettier (that’s always gonna be a thing right? I don’t have to buy into that dumb contest), wrapping my arms around her mother and telling her I love that she is younger and prettier and it’s ok that she is and I’m ok the way I am….

And we don’t need to hire a huntsman to hunt down the competitor.

Boom (images are of the Disney Movie) and picture is me and my two daughters

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Synchronized swimming-family style

Hello friends!

I thought I would share something super cute!

Doesn’t summer remind you of the olympics? Well last week when my family went to Wyoming for my grandfather’s funeral and my family reunion, a few of us congregated at the same hotel with a pool and needed to create some fun after my grandpa’s viewing the first night.

We got the funny idea to create a synchronized routine similar to the olympics!

We practiced and practiced! Two grandkids, two daughters and one son in law including myself performed the routine flawlessly and my son in law set it to music.

See for yourself our gold medal winning family synchronized swimming routine complete with one shower cap and two life jackets!

Enjoy!

Bucket List

Hello friends!

Summer is flying by and I’ve been super busy!

I did something brave last week, I jumped off a bridge into a lake (Palisades Reservoir) It was part of our summer family reunion activities โค๏ธ we also floated down Salt River but no video (lots more fun)

I didn’t know it was on my bucket list; I’ve never jumped off a bridge before. I’ve never jumped off a cliff before.

I don’t know why, now that I’m older, I’m doing all these things? Maybe age causes brain damage??

Apparently there is a correct way to jump off a bridge into water. Who knew?? Not me ๐Ÿคจ and oddly enough I did not ask questions.

It was a high bridge (high to me) in a little cove of the reservoir I often played in while growing up. I learned to water ski there when I was young. I personally still like water skiing better ๐Ÿ˜Š

Apparently one should point the toes, drop in the water straight, with your arms high above your head coming to a point or dive like Greg Louganis (but I can’t do that!) LOL

So I just jumped off when I gathered the courage. My left arm was out to my side with my elbow bent. My right arm tried to plug my nose but missed as the force of the water whipped my hand up and I scratched my own forehead. The water was pretty deep and took awhile to rise to the surface and I had a feeling I would drown (panicked).

But I have it on video that I was brave so I never have to do it again. Thankfully my left arm isn’t hurting so bad anymore ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

I hope you enjoy my video- bridge jumping

Laughter, the Best Medicine

Hello friends and happy Thursday!

I just had to share something hilarious from last night.

Our daughter and her two children (age 8 and 4) are living with us. It’s been a big change for all of us and we often have such fun!

Last night my husband came home late from work; he’s been working long hours the last couple of weeks and I think the grandchildren miss seeing him because they go to bed around 8pm. So last night after arriving home, hubs is in the bathroom and my four year old grandson is really anxious to see grandpa!

He is standing outside the bathroom yelling to his grandpa….and we can hear the whole conversation….

“Grandpa unlock the door”….”just a minute bud, I’m almost done”

“Grandpa are you done”? ….”just a minute bud, I just got home from work”

” Grandpa Are you wiping“???!! (SILENCE)…..

OH MY HECK I COULD NOT STOP LAUGHING!! THIS WAS A EPIC LAUGH TOO!

I IMMEDIATELY SENT A TEXT MESSAGE TO HUBS IN THE BATHROOM….ARE YOU WIPING???? LOL

This comedic moment brought to you by my sweet four year old grandson. You are welcome.

History of Brave Women

Hello Friends!

Happy Thursday! I was listening to a podcast this morning by Rachel Hollis-interviewing Lisa Kleypas discussing her writing career and historical events that shape women’s lives. I thought I would share some history of a brave woman I know.

My grandma Lindberg, Norma R Lindberg was born in 1920 and died in 2009 so I had time as an adult to get to know my grandma Lindberg. My other grandma, Faye H Dana died in 1982 and I didn’t get to know her as well as an adult; I was only 17 when she passed away from cancer.

My grandma waited until she was about 80 to share with me some of her history which I think is so fascinating. My grandma (I’ll just refer to her as Norma now) had a beau in high school- Merrill Taylor, but he went to war in I believe 1942. Norma was left at home and she is a beauty. She caught the attention of Wayne Call (Merrill’s friend) and he started courting her. One evening he invited her to attend a family party with him and he unexpectedly announced at the party that they were engaged (he had not actually asked her to marry him). So Norma felt pressured to accept him as her fiance even though she was still in love with Merrill. They married and soon therafter were expecting my mother, Carolyn.

My mother was born in 1944 and soon after her birth, Norma decided she would divorce Wayne because she was not happy and still in love with Merrill.ย  Norma lived in a small religious community in Wyoming and considering the culture at that time, she probably worried about judgments and people wagging their tongues but she stood up for herself. She was one brave woman and now alone with a child.

Merrill came home from the war and soon reconnected with Norma. They married in 1946 and soon added two more children to their little family. After the war, Merrill got a job as a lineman and traveled often (I’ve heard this, not really sure if that is correct. A lineman is someone who climbs power poles and repairs or installs power lines in areas). Merrill was doing this work in Kern California when he was electrocuted and killed in 1950. Norma was again alone with children.

Norma had always been an industrious woman. I am not sure if this is when she started working for (?) but she worked almost all her adult life. She lived with her father at some point while getting on her feet as a single parent. These were difficult times to begin with (after World War II), but a single mother with three children had to have been daunting.

She later is reacquainted with Wilton Lindberg, (also a friend of Merrill and Wayne- it’s a small community and these men refer to themselves as “The Swedes”) who is a widower-his young wife died after the birth of their second daughter. Norma and Wilton married and added a baby girl to the family. My mother is oldest, then Jackie (Wilton’s oldest daughter), then Irene and Jed (Merrill and Norma’s children), then Sherry (Wilton’s youngest daughter), and Laurie (daughter of Norma and Wilton). My wonderful grandmother Norma kept working throughout her life but was also an amazing cook, gardener (at one time had a acre garden), and housekeeper. Her food-canning and cooking are renown-especially a recipe for Red Velvet Cake. She always entered food or handsewn/sewing machine items (she was a talented quilter and crocheter) in the fair and often won first place ribbons.

Norma was very frugal, hard working, and saved all the money she could. When she passed away, she left her children and myself (I was included because I am the only living offspring of my mother, father, and siblings-passed away many years previous) but I am so blessed to know my grandma as an adult and appreciate how brave she is and how hard she worked to take care of herself and her children. I hope you appreciate hearing the history of a brave woman I admire-my grandmother Norma R Lindberg.

New Year Renewal

Hello friends!

Happy New Years Eve!

I hope you are all ready for 2019! How did the year go by so quickly??

I’m happy for a new year; it’s like a fresh start (and of course then there is spring {after snow melts in a couple months}and everything in the earth is new too)! I love renewal and fresh starts!

I’m happy for all I learned in 2018; I benefited from training in two interventions (DBT PE and EMDR) to help my clients with trauma and that is amazing! I love to help my clients.

I also got to spend a lot of time with my family and hubs which I love! I decided to spend more time with my grandkids this year, I will set aside every other Saturday to play with them. I’ve been normally very protective of my Saturday’s as it feels like my recharge day from work but I realized time with the grandkids does the same thing for me โค๏ธ plus they’re so freakin cute! And they each let me kiss them to pieces! They’re so sweet to their grandma! On Christmas Day, the three year old almost choked me out saying “I’m giving you big hugs grandma”! He’s so cute! (And very ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ˜‚)

I need to think of fun activities to do with a 8, 7, 4, and 3 year old that doesn’t wear me out but they love. If you have ideas, pass them on to me โค๏ธ

That’s my goal for this year! Have more fun with my family! I think I can definitely do that โค๏ธโค๏ธ

I hope all of you as my wonderful readers get to discover the many blessings of 2018 and a renewed sense of joy anticipating 2019. I wish you and yours a wonderful New Year. Thanks for reading friends!

Gaming (In my House)

Hello friends!

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas! I enjoyed myself immensely over the last four days off from work! I got to see some of my hubs family and then my children/grandchildren came over two of the last four days! I am so blessed!

I think the most fun I have is in “gaming” which means something different to me!

In our family, we love love love to play games! Lately we’ve been playing a lot of “Codenames”, “Sequence”, “Ticket to Ride”, “UNO” of course, “Pass the Pigs, and our grandkids gave us a new game “Skull King” which is very fun, a little like Pinochle, and my seven year old grandson is a whiz at! We played 10 rounds and yes I ended up winning (but that happened at the very last minute)! LOL

Our family loves all kinds of board games and card games. One epic game “Spoons” has resulted in physical injuries and dents in the walls as participants leap for spoons in acrobatic moves! I have so many fun memories of playing games with my children/grandchildren.

Check out these games listed above, you will not be disappointed!