Summertime

Hello friends!!

How is everyone this fine Saturday?? I’m having a lovely four day weekend with my hubby! We drove to St George Utah for our anniversary and are just hanging out, visiting Zion National Park, went to a concert at Tuacahn (David Archuleta!) and are having a good time 😍

Yesterday before the concert we drove to Zion National Park and hiked a couple trails- (at one point we passed a couple girls taking selfies and one said to the other- “that shows your chubby arms”?? as I walked by them I told her”you do not have chubby arms”!-be positive about your body friends!) seriously people I’m in heaven -it was gorgeous! I’ll add some pictures!

Anyway we got to the concert; before it started we discussed what to do the next day and I want to do more hiking- hubs does not and I ask him “do u want to live”?? At our age (hubs is older than me) we need to keep active so I figure I’m extending and improving his quality of life by making him hike when he would rather sit! 😂😂 oh my goodness!

So at Tuacahn we saw David Archuleta and I had so much fun! He really has a beautiful voice; he did some of his new album “Postcards in the Sky” some of his older songs, a medley of “Greatest Show”, a song from Lion King II, “If I Could Only Imagine”-originally by Mercy Me and it was a wonderful concert (thanks to my son Connor for tickets!)

Today we are headed back to Zion, do some more hiking, get some grub, stop and visit family, and then maybe hang out at the pool.

It’s a beautiful morning friends! Have a great weekend!

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MoviePass Review (and other musings on being a woman)

Hello Friends!

Happy Weekend! What’s everyone doing??

I did something interesting this morning.

It all started about a week ago. I’m a huge movie buff (I think you can already tell, sometimes I dress to match my movies LOL) I had heard my co worker’s friends had a movie app with unlimited movies, I thought that might be my THING. So I cruised through the app store on my iPhone and tada! Up popped MoviePass…I signed up to pay $9.95 a month in exchange for free pass to a movie a day. Sounds about my speed right??

It took about a week to get our MoviePass card (you download the app and then MoviePass sends you a card, like a credit card-with my name and a number) you register your card on your app, then head to a theatre. There are many in my area affiliated with MoviePass. Outside the theatre, I check in (on my app) for the movie and time I want to see, then head inside to pay at the kiosk for my seat.

We saw the new Tomb Raider movie with Alicia Vikander at 10:30am (I know I vowed to lay in my bed til lunchtime but I was excited to use my MoviePass-haha). It was a fun movie (lots of action and twists in the plot) except I kept comparing it to Lara Croft: Tomb Raider with Angelina Jolie. I just think Angelina Jolie is a badA compared to Alicia Vikander. Jolie has this attitude and she’s sort of like a superhero-I mean she is behind sled dogs racing a crumbling structure without a sled?? Nobody else knows how to figure out the riddles except her (well Alicia does that too, that’s true)-but I can’t give things away for those of you who haven’t seen it. It’s fun and worth seeing. I’ve included a pic of me and hubs as we left the theatre 🙂

I sit and wonder how can Angelina or Alicia kick butt like they do in movies and be so freakin tiny? I think that is one thing that contributes to women/girls perception that thinness is more important than everything else. Wonder Woman is pretty thin too, have you seen Gal Gadot? Regular women do not look like that; I think Hollywood does women a disservice. I have a friend that does crossfit and really I think she could be Tomb Raider. She has muscles, like real muscles. I think if Hollywood wants to show me a crimefighting, world saving, smart woman; please oh please let her be real. I know lots of real women that save the world and are smart and fight crime. Let’s have a real woman as a role model OK?

It’s all perspective-what is the truth?

Hello friends!

Happy Wednesday! I hope all of your weeks are going well so far 🙂 The only thing I don’t like about my week is the snow but I mean it is still winter technically so it will snow LOL!

I think all of you know that I’m a therapist right? Well every Tuesday I run a eating disorder/body image group here at work. Yesterday we watched a short video created by Dove that I love. It’s on YouTube and I will post a link here.

The idea of the video is that several women are asked to describe themselves to a FBI sketch artist (he doesn’t actually ever see them, he is behind a curtain facing away from them) and he sketches them based on their description of themselves; he then sketches another view of them from a stranger that has spent (15 minutes?) talking to them. Watch the video, it’s amazing!

We spent time in group discussing how our own perspective of ourselves is distorted and I think this happens with every day people. I had a co worker remark to me yesterday, “That’s such a cute outfit, you always dress so cute. I don’t think I could ever dress like that” (or something similar, maybe I don’t remember her exact words) and I disagree. I think we sometimes get too worried about what other people will think (based on our own distorted perspective). Case in point: One day I wore two prints (it was last summer and I just jumped on the mixing prints trend) and I previously planned to wear two coordinated prints but one day I wore a different bottom with the printed top (they didn’t actually match) but I didn’t realize it until I got my pajamas on that night. It was odd when I realized I had been all day without matching…no one said anything and I didn’t realize the patterns were off…SO DOES IT REALLY MATTER IF I DON’T CARE?? This is my question….if you don’t worry about it, does it matter? I think we can apply this to any area.

Does anyone notice the back of my hair where two curls leave a gap? Does anyone notice the zit I covered on my face? Does anyone notice if my hair isn’t washed today? Does anyone notice that I think I’ve gained weight? Does anyone notice what size I wear? Does anyone notice I haven’t exercised for days? Does anyone notice I didn’t shower today?Does anyone care about my age or wrinkles? Does anyone notice my eyebrows aren’t the same? Does anyone notice I have a big head and most hats don’t fit my head? (No one notices, no one cares)

I challenge each of you to wear something you didn’t think you could, to be yourself, to speak up, to challenge the thoughts you have about yourself and be more gentle 🙂 Watch the video and change your perspective!

Dove Real Beauty Sketch Artist

The Adventures of a Middle Aged Woman

Hello Friends!

I think the title of this post should be my new tagline! It’s been quite the week!

First I had a traumatic experience at a kick boxing class and then shopping for a swimsuit is also traumatizing! Not to mention a curling iron malfunction today!! There is a lot of trauma going on in my life! LOL and that’s why I thought I should share!

I’ve been increasing my physical activity lately (It really helps me feel good and I sleep better at night) and so I thought I would join a kick boxing class at my local gym. I got all dressed up in my fun exercise clothes (striped pants and tank by JCPenney) and the class started. I immediately knew I was in trouble… the instructor started barking out instructions for the next “set”- “1, 2, 3, 4 double punch, sway punch, step back kick punch, rear kick in each corner, 1 punch, 2 punch, 3 punch, etc….’Does everyone have that’ as she points in my direction??? UH NO! SOMEONE HELP ME! At one point during one of the “sets” there is a step where the a participant will stomp her legs quickly as if she is a football player, then pivot to the right, stomps again, pivot again to the right, stomps again, and pivots back to center…only yours truly is a BEGINNER and is standing there stumped when the whole class pivots to FACE ME! Seriously kill me now…this is the worse evening EVAAAAA! It’s right up there with high school…how is this possible?? Most of the 60 minute class I am just stepping to the right and left trying to keep my heart rate up while thinking WTF?? There weren’t any prerequisites for this class? I mean if I was to take college Trig, there would be information letting me know if I was prepared or not…but not this kick boxing class….it was a sad and pathetic but somewhat amusing/memorable experience.

Yesterday I went swimsuit shopping with my good friend Sepideh and really we had so much fun talking and shopping but hardly found any swimsuits until the end of the day. We drove to Park City in super bad weather- heading to Park City there was an accident the other direction and my car slid in a couple spots so I was way careful and slow (which is a bummer because it’s a super fun windy road that I’ve drove probably 1,000 times and is fun to drive fast) We went to Tanger Outlets and hit Tommy Bahama cause I was sure they would have a swimsuit (let’s be honest, it’s hard to find a swimsuit in Utah in January, actually this was Mission Impossible not mission difficult 😉 hahaha and we went to about seven stores but no swimsuit….that isn’t to say I did not buy anything (that’s another blog) haha On our way home we hit Shops at Riverwoods and tada! Lime Ricki has some fun darling swimsuits! I totally forgot they were there, so we got all excited and popped in (braving the freezing rain). I found several tops/bottom combinations to take in the dressing room but soon figured out the sizing is small….Sepideh and I are both trying on suits so how do I get out of the dressing room half dressed and switch sizes?? I try calling the cashier lady…”Help?? Please help”??? Finally she  heard me calling and got me other sizes…I found two real cute swimsuit options although the red one was difficult to manage in the smaller size (basically my bust was trapped above the suit and I couldn’t move it without breaking my shoulder)! I almost called for help again! Help my (*****) are trapped, I can’t get it off”! Thankfully I finally got it off without breaking my arms or leaving my bust trapped…(Does this happen to anyone else???Seriously??- truth be told my friend almost called me for help as she was struggling with the same thing!!) I was sweating by the time I got out of the predicament! This is real life people! I know (first world problems)….lol

Then today as I began getting ready for church, I grabbed a section of my hair to curl and NOTHING…. hmmmm yeah it’s plugged in, yeah it’s switched on, that’s odd the heat setting is on high….what is going on?? I try again and nothing…this is not my week is it??First the kick boxing, then the swimsuit, then the curling iron?? It all happens in three’s right? LOL so I get out my curling wand which I’ve never mastered and try to get that to work in time to get to church….of course my hair is not cooperating because this is just different, it’s a dirty hair day, now I’m in a hurry, and let’s all be stubborn and make my life hard! And I put together something super cute for today and my hair is doing this?? Really? Isn’t it a weekend? Can’t we all work together?? Oh my gosh, I just had to let it go and realize that no one really notices what I’m freaking out about. I do KNOW THAT FOR SURE…MY INSECURITIES ARE ONLY MINE, NO ONE ELSE KNOWS…. 🙂

So I hope you had a laugh with me over the last few days. LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE.

To complete my post, here are some pics of my outfit today. I matched a metallic pleated beige skirt (WhoWhatWear, Target) with my ruffle sleeve gray sweater (WhoWhatWear, Target) and my Target fishnet hose along with my Target ANewDay leopard booties. I added my chunky necklace I’ve had for years from Burlington Coat Factory? Isn’t the whole thing fun?? I think it helps to make up for all the trauma this week LOL!

I’ve added a picture of my new swimsuit from Lime Ricki! This is a real risk for me as I’m not super stable in my body positivity in a swimsuit yet…

Weekend Assignment-Swimsuit

Hello Friends!

Did everyone make it through the first full week of January?? I know it was hard but yay you for getting it done 🙂 Yay me for getting it done 🙂

Now my treat to survive the week is finding a swimsuit for my vacation! Whaaaaaattt?? That seriously does not sound like a treat, really who would refer to that as a treat? Most women I know do not consider that a treat. Me either…stick a needle in my eye…

The problem with swimsuit shopping is complex…let me explain. Clothes shopping is normally a very fun activity and I get a little thrill when I find something lovely and even more when it’s on sale. I really don’t stress over my size, I just find something in my range that fits and for the most part, clothes look good.

This is not true for swimsuits and I think I speak for most women out there. I see a real pretty swimsuit in the store (I’ve had experience, so a feeling of dread grips my heart) and sometimes I try on in the store. Most times I don’t just because I’ve been there before. I used to try on suits in the store and the lighting is good for corpses but not for a woman figuring out which swimsuit to buy. It always looks better in the store…or on the hanger….swimsuits just don’t look the same on the hanger as they do on the body. Who designs these things??

I’m all about body positivity and age positivity although I guess the swimsuit area is one where body positivity eludes me. It’s a work in progress I’m sure.

So I found one suit at my favorite store-Target- of course did not try it on but took it home. It’s a one piece (normally one piece suits flatten what’s on top) but I don’t wear bikinis and there weren’t any tankinis, so I got the one piece. It’s a real cute jungle print and bottom half of suit fits fine but top is too loose. I might have a wardrobe malfunction if I do anything but walk. So I took it back for the smaller bust size which of course equals smaller hip size (which only happens in make believe world) and of course the top part now fits better but bottom part is tight and cuts into my nether regions…..

Most summers I don’t even buy a suit, who needs to go swimming anyway?? It’s not worth it really…but since I’m going on vacation soon…this is a need (I hardly ever use that word in regard to clothes haha but truly it is now)…

So I’ll share a picture of my Target suit (I think it would look cute with my cowboy hat and some shorts…also a need because I don’t have any) and one other from Dillards and if I find another cuter suit on Saturday I’ll run it by ya’ll. Give me your opinion!

La Blanca Beyond the Jungle