Fairly Fairy Tale Distorted

Hello friends!

Happy Monday!

I hope all of you had a good weekend! I had fun with my family in our annual Halloween party. Each of us makes some kind of ghoulish food that is actually edible and it’s super fun. We had this party on Saturday and it really made my weekend 🙂

I thought I would share something interesting I discovered last week. My granddaughter was doing her daily reading (she is a 4th grader and is supposed to practice her reading every day). She read Snow White aloud to me and then asked me what I thought.

Me being a therapist all of a sudden realized! Holy crap, what’s up with fairy tales? Here is a story of a woman who daily asks her mirror “who is the fairest”? as if that’s a contest one person can win. Then one day as she has aged, her mirror lets her know, there’s a new contestant and BTW you lose now, game over!

Really??? And to top that off, said older woman decides to pursue murder as a way of solving her problem of aging and not being the “fairest of them all”???

This sounds like a modern day problem, but I’ve heard this story forever. I’m just now getting a little bit of insight that we have some jacked up ideas in our culture…like women need to be beautiful and number one beautiful all their lives, like it’s a contest and winner take all, even to the extreme. That actually doesn’t sound like a fairy tale, that sounds like things I’ve heard for years. But this crap is what we’re also teaching our young people.

My granddaughter asked me what I thought of her reading and I told her it’s actually ok for women to age and it’s ok for someone to be younger and prettier than me. It’s a normal part of life and I’m happy anyway even if there is someone younger, (like everyone under 55) and prettier (that’s always gonna be a thing right? I don’t have to buy into that dumb contest), wrapping my arms around her mother and telling her I love that she is younger and prettier and it’s ok that she is and I’m ok the way I am….

And we don’t need to hire a huntsman to hunt down the competitor.

Boom (images are of the Disney Movie) and picture is me and my two daughters

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Summer Hair (I got a wig)

Hello friends and happy weekend!

I know I told you I would share my wardrobe tricks while on vacation in Peru, but something else happened!

While in Peru, I wore my two halo pieces every day until about 9pm. Normally at home I take them both off when I get off work. I do this because one piece attaches on top of my head with a monofilament wire, although maybe the hair is too heavy because this wire has been digging into my head, leaving a dent and sometimes causes my scalp to bleed. It’s been painful.

I’ve been wearing both of my halo pieces daily because for the last several months, my hair has been falling out at a terrific pace. It might be stress that made it worse, I honestly don’t know.

So I’ve been thinking of getting another wig. My hair loss was bad about 3 years ago and I got a wig then (it’s a short one though) and I’ve really got attached to long hair. It’s so fun!

So yesterday after work, I went to a local wig store called “Creative Wigs and Hair Replacement”. It’s a new store from the one I visited a few years ago, but I’ve learned since then not to be afraid of a wig store. The employees are so kind and just there to help women or men. (I think most women wear wigs due to hair loss and the employees are so sweet, some of them experiencing the same thing)

I was originally trying to find a wig similar to my halo (s). I tried on several. I think the human hair wigs were very nice and look super natural although they are VERY expensive -$2500. So I thought that was out of the market.

But then I tried on a really cute wig, it’s a tiny bit shorter, still long hair, kind of a beachy type of style……and it’s blonde!

So… I decided I love it and it doesn’t hurt my head! Yay! I also don’t have to worry about my hair loss because with a wig I don’t depend on my hair to hold the thing in place. I’m super happy and wanted to share my new look with you! Plus it’s summer and that calls for lighter hair! Now I just have to figure out how my drastic hair color change will work with my clothes! 😂 first world problems am I right??

Happy summer everyone!

If any of you are struggling with this same thing, hair loss- please know there are lots of options and it helps so much. Don’t be afraid to visit your local hair/wig store! Be brave ❤️

Product Review for Black Friday!

Hello friends!

Happy Thanksgiving Eve! I thought I would share a review of two beauty products I purchased from Sephora, just in case you want to do some shopping on Friday (that might be a good time, it happens to coincide with SEVERAL BIG sales!) LOL

I purchased the Norvina by Anastasia palette and Best of Nudes Mini Studded Kiss Crème Lipstick set (by Kat Von D). I like the bright colors of the Norvina Palette, it was 15% off, and has a holiday vibe. The mini lipstick set attracted me due to the colors, the mini sizes, and a bonus is that its a crème matte lipstick which does not dry the lips! Yay!

So first for the palette: I’ve tried it three times so far since Saturday and I just love it. It’s going to be great fun over the holidays, the colors are so pretty, and you all know I like sparkle. Here is what I did on my eyes (borrowed from Temptalia):

Inner tearduct: Dreamer, Inner lid: Summer, Middle of Lid: Love, Outer lid: Dazzling, Volatile, Crease: Eccentric, Deep Crease: Volatile, Above crease: Incense, Browbone: Base, Lower Lash line: Celestial and Dazzling. I also used Anastasia Brow Whiz in Ebony, and Urban Decay 24/7 in whiskey. These are such beautiful colors, I so recommend!!

Then with the mini lipstick set by Kat Von D: I was attracted to them because of the fun colors. I felt the need for new colors this winter (I love lipsticks btw) although most of the fun colors I’ve seen are a matte and super dry my lips. I have very sensitive skin and this must apply to my lips as well. If I wear a matte color, my lips are literally peeling by the end of the day. That’s not super cute if you know what I mean, so I’m careful about wearing matte colors. Then the lipstick themselves have a studded case and they are mini so they almost look like shell casings (maybe that’s the point?) but they fit in my mini bags perfectly. I wore Hawkind yesterday and it stayed on all day, didn’t smear over lunch, and didn’t dry out my lips so if you’re looking for a great creamy matte lipstick, this is for you! (in the picture today I’m wearing sanctuary)

I hope this has been a fun review that you can check on this Friday if you’d like! You know it’s the biggest shopping day LOL! (Both of these beauties are at Sephora!)

The Whole Naked 2 Palette

Hello Friends!

I’ve been conflicted lately! I love Urban Decay’s Naked 2 palette, but struggle using the other colors besides my four go to colors: bootycall, tease, snakebite, and half baked. These are all great, amazing, and flattering colors BUT I want to make use of the rest of the palette. It’s a pretty penny to use only four out of 12 colors. I mean REALLY!

So…in getting ready for my Halloween Morticia makeup, I discovered a smoky eye I can use three more colors on my Naked 2 palette! Yay! I use foxy on my lid, pistol on the crease and brow bone and black out in a “V” at the corner of my eye (pistol and blackout also under my eye).

But to give you the whole experience, I’m linking my YouTube video of the tutorial for all to see what I did and you too can use up more Naked 2 colors! It’s a win win!

Click the link to watch for yourself. Have a great week friends!

Naked 2 tutorial

Hair Saga

Hello friends and happy Sunday!

I thought I’d share some of my continuing hair ideas.

Most of you know I have hashimotos and struggle with fluctuating hair loss. A few months ago I purchased a couple of Halo extensions.

One problem I have is that if I’m not wearing the extensions, I need to pull my own hair up into a clip. Some of my hair is long and some about chin length due to frequent hair loss and then regrowth; it’s a constant struggle with autoimmune disease.

My thought is that I will cut my own hair so that sometimes I can have my own hair “out and about” or wearing a hat (which I love to do but can’t with the extensions) and sometimes I’ll wear my extensions (have long hair).

What do you all think of this? I know many people that wear different hair pieces depending on their mood.

One idea is this type of pixie cut which I’ve had before and I like. Another is Cate Blanchett’s hair in Oceans Eight (a new movie with Sandra Bullock). I’m leaning toward the blunt cut (Cate’s cut). It’s different and fun and then when I want long hair I can put on my extensions.

Here are some pictures to show what I mean. (Pixie cut courtesy of Victoria Beckham) I hope this helps anyone else who might be struggling with hair loss too. (BTW watch this movie-Oceans Eight, cause I love Cate Blanchett’s style and will be trying to copy her in some ways IRL 😂🤣)

Couch Potato Plan

Hello friends!

How are you all this wonderful Wednesday?? I’m so glad the week is half over. I’m telling you my training was tough tough tough. It’s the most difficult thing I’ve done for years!

We spent the whole training in silence which was not as difficult as spending (25) 25 minute meditation-which means I sat on a chair with a straight posture, my feet flat on the floor and my hands resting on my knees without moving. (Some people sat on cushions with their legs crossed but baby my knees are at a age that I cannot sit cross legged anymore LOL) So I sat on a chair. It was so hard! But I made it through and am very proud of myself.

We did this training on Whidbey Island in Puget Sound outside of Seattle Washington and oh my gosh it’s such a pretty area. The smells of the forest around us was AMAZING! I couldn’t figure out what smelled so good until a co worker, born and raised in Washington told me it was the redwood trees, cedar smell. Friends, I’ve never been so in love with trees before. OH MY GOSH it was so beautiful, so that helped to balance out the HARD.

But last night as I got home from work, I had no desire to do anything but lay on the couch, (I was so tired) cue up my new Jurassic World movie and eat Thai food. That was my couch potato plan and I enjoyed it!

Enjoy the pictures I’m adding of the area around The Whidbey Institute. It’s a gorgeous place. I’m also adding pictures of the cabin we stayed.