Category Archives: Beauty

Pretty Perspective

I remember growing up compliments on my outward appearance were rare.

I heard the skin on my legs and arms looked smooth. I heard my hands/fingers were long and shapely.

I had acne, I struggled with styling my hair, my teeth were stained because my mom used a certain antibiotic while pregnant with me, and I fell on the ice and knocked a tooth out. I did not ever think I was pretty but I thought I was important to my Heavenly Father.

Then as an adult (with four children) I ran into a couple from my youth. I worked part time at Mervyns while attending university. They stood agape at me when I said hello, “you are pretty” they said but their tone sounded incredulous like what the hell happened to you?? I didn’t know whether to say thank you or be offended.

I thought it was odd because I had not changed as a person. I had matured, still had acne (I have rosacea now which is very similar) I did fix my two front teeth-one that broke when I was 17 and the other chipped several times by my rambunctious children. I experienced several challenges and overcame and I think more confident in myself.

I realized then that other people’s view of me is not important and interestingly enough changes all the time. My view of myself is what is important and it should not be based on my appearance because it also changes every year. My appearance is a ever changing landscape. I am grateful to have the chance to live and experience; I am less grateful for chronic pain but it sure is nice when I don’t notice it.

I am grateful to be a daughter, mother, wife, grandmother, friend, co worker, therapist, hard worker, fun loving, funny (sometimes only I think this 😂) caring, loving, kind, thoughtful, determined, and creative person. None of this has anything to do with my appearance. Thank goodness for that.

I’m the same person in all these pictures no matter my appearance.

Halloween Makeup Fun

Now that Halloween is over, I can share with you all the Halloween makeup looks I tried this week. I didn’t have a costume but instead tried to do several different eye make up looks. Remember I am not a trained makeup artist so I think I did pretty good!

My first one was a spider! I might even use the colors in my regular day because I think it complements my eye color.

My second one was just black and orange. Typically orange is not a good color on me but it turned out ok.

My third look is a more cartoon witchy color with purple, orange, and black.

By the fourth day I am super tired of orange. It’s just not me! 😂 so I tried to copy some colors from the Disney character Maleficent. I used a couple different shades of green with gold and black. It was more fun and I have some green/gold flecks in my brown eyes.

On Halloween I decided to try a clown look with black, pink, and gray. It’s kind of chalky for me but it was fun although hard to take off at night 😢

I also used my different wigs with my Halloween looks which I thought was fun!

I hope this gives you ideas of how many different ways you can use makeup for Halloween!

For The Love of Red Hair

I remember several years ago attending a Utah Jazz basketball game. One of the Jazz dancers had long red/purple hair and I thought OMG I want red/purple hair! It was so pretty.

So I changed my hair color. I had platinum hair then and was ready for a change. Platinum is a lot of upkeep but so is red. Red washes out quickly-very quickly. So I spent time to grow my hair although noticed it seemed to fall out more often.

I had special “red” shampoo, washed my hair in cold water and blow dryed my hair on cooler temperatures.

This first picture is 2018- my hair is a dark brown with purple red highlights. I am also wearing a “halo” dyed to match and I loved it!

This next picture is just a couple days ago. I cut my long purple/red wig because the end were getting fuzzy and tangled but as you can see-the color is almost the same and not even close to the upkeep of my hair before! Wigs can be so much more versatile and the red color lasts a long time! No color touch ups yet (it’s been a year)!

I love red hair! It’s my version of a Jazz 💃

Mindful Eating

Hello friends!

It’s that time of year when nearly everyone I know talks about diets and losing weight. I don’t know what that’s the main focus in life, it might be due to media influences but diet companies are big business and spend $$$$ to advertise in lots of different ways-showing us we need to look a certain way to be attractive or accepted.

I’m tired of this particular scam. I also have a few years education in eating disorder arena. A month ago, I participated in a webinar comparing intermittent fasting/diets as usual with mindful eating.

Mindful eating has the most long term health benefits of any popular “diet” or intermittent fasting. Most people on diets lose weight but (I think it’s almost 95% of the time) gain all the weight back + more.

Mindful eating involves a lifestyle change-eating when you are hungry, don’t eat while doing something else, don’t eat while watching tv, and taking time to savor each bite. You can’t charge a lot of money for this nutrition style but over the long run far outweigh any diets or fads (there is nothing that guarantees weight loss although sometimes happens as we listen to what our body needs).

It’s takes about 20 minutes for the stomach to send a message to the brain that it’s full. I mindfully ate a gummy bear yesterday-spent about 5 minutes smelling, touching, seeing, and then tasting in my mouth before chomping down -I noticed several artificial smells-tastes that were NOT appealing and I only ate one.

Let’s all jump on the mindful eating bandwagon and make “health” not weight a focus of our lives-not just a January resolution.

Fairly Fairy Tale Distorted

Hello friends!

Happy Monday!

I hope all of you had a good weekend! I had fun with my family in our annual Halloween party. Each of us makes some kind of ghoulish food that is actually edible and it’s super fun. We had this party on Saturday and it really made my weekend 🙂

I thought I would share something interesting I discovered last week. My granddaughter was doing her daily reading (she is a 4th grader and is supposed to practice her reading every day). She read Snow White aloud to me and then asked me what I thought.

Me being a therapist all of a sudden realized! Holy crap, what’s up with fairy tales? Here is a story of a woman who daily asks her mirror “who is the fairest”? as if that’s a contest one person can win. Then one day as she has aged, her mirror lets her know, there’s a new contestant and BTW you lose now, game over!

Really??? And to top that off, said older woman decides to pursue murder as a way of solving her problem of aging and not being the “fairest of them all”???

This sounds like a modern day problem, but I’ve heard this story forever. I’m just now getting a little bit of insight that we have some jacked up ideas in our culture…like women need to be beautiful and number one beautiful all their lives, like it’s a contest and winner take all, even to the extreme. That actually doesn’t sound like a fairy tale, that sounds like things I’ve heard for years. But this crap is what we’re also teaching our young people.

My granddaughter asked me what I thought of her reading and I told her it’s actually ok for women to age and it’s ok for someone to be younger and prettier than me. It’s a normal part of life and I’m happy anyway even if there is someone younger, (like everyone under 55) and prettier (that’s always gonna be a thing right? I don’t have to buy into that dumb contest), wrapping my arms around her mother and telling her I love that she is younger and prettier and it’s ok that she is and I’m ok the way I am….

And we don’t need to hire a huntsman to hunt down the competitor.

Boom (images are of the Disney Movie) and picture is me and my two daughters

Summer Hair (I got a wig)

Hello friends and happy weekend!

I know I told you I would share my wardrobe tricks while on vacation in Peru, but something else happened!

While in Peru, I wore my two halo pieces every day until about 9pm. Normally at home I take them both off when I get off work. I do this because one piece attaches on top of my head with a monofilament wire, although maybe the hair is too heavy because this wire has been digging into my head, leaving a dent and sometimes causes my scalp to bleed. It’s been painful.

I’ve been wearing both of my halo pieces daily because for the last several months, my hair has been falling out at a terrific pace. It might be stress that made it worse, I honestly don’t know.

So I’ve been thinking of getting another wig. My hair loss was bad about 3 years ago and I got a wig then (it’s a short one though) and I’ve really got attached to long hair. It’s so fun!

So yesterday after work, I went to a local wig store called “Creative Wigs and Hair Replacement”. It’s a new store from the one I visited a few years ago, but I’ve learned since then not to be afraid of a wig store. The employees are so kind and just there to help women or men. (I think most women wear wigs due to hair loss and the employees are so sweet, some of them experiencing the same thing)

I was originally trying to find a wig similar to my halo (s). I tried on several. I think the human hair wigs were very nice and look super natural although they are VERY expensive -$2500. So I thought that was out of the market.

But then I tried on a really cute wig, it’s a tiny bit shorter, still long hair, kind of a beachy type of style……and it’s blonde!

So… I decided I love it and it doesn’t hurt my head! Yay! I also don’t have to worry about my hair loss because with a wig I don’t depend on my hair to hold the thing in place. I’m super happy and wanted to share my new look with you! Plus it’s summer and that calls for lighter hair! Now I just have to figure out how my drastic hair color change will work with my clothes! 😂 first world problems am I right??

Happy summer everyone!

If any of you are struggling with this same thing, hair loss- please know there are lots of options and it helps so much. Don’t be afraid to visit your local hair/wig store! Be brave ❤️

Product Review for Black Friday!

Hello friends!

Happy Thanksgiving Eve! I thought I would share a review of two beauty products I purchased from Sephora, just in case you want to do some shopping on Friday (that might be a good time, it happens to coincide with SEVERAL BIG sales!) LOL

I purchased the Norvina by Anastasia palette and Best of Nudes Mini Studded Kiss Crème Lipstick set (by Kat Von D). I like the bright colors of the Norvina Palette, it was 15% off, and has a holiday vibe. The mini lipstick set attracted me due to the colors, the mini sizes, and a bonus is that its a crème matte lipstick which does not dry the lips! Yay!

So first for the palette: I’ve tried it three times so far since Saturday and I just love it. It’s going to be great fun over the holidays, the colors are so pretty, and you all know I like sparkle. Here is what I did on my eyes (borrowed from Temptalia):

Inner tearduct: Dreamer, Inner lid: Summer, Middle of Lid: Love, Outer lid: Dazzling, Volatile, Crease: Eccentric, Deep Crease: Volatile, Above crease: Incense, Browbone: Base, Lower Lash line: Celestial and Dazzling. I also used Anastasia Brow Whiz in Ebony, and Urban Decay 24/7 in whiskey. These are such beautiful colors, I so recommend!!

Then with the mini lipstick set by Kat Von D: I was attracted to them because of the fun colors. I felt the need for new colors this winter (I love lipsticks btw) although most of the fun colors I’ve seen are a matte and super dry my lips. I have very sensitive skin and this must apply to my lips as well. If I wear a matte color, my lips are literally peeling by the end of the day. That’s not super cute if you know what I mean, so I’m careful about wearing matte colors. Then the lipstick themselves have a studded case and they are mini so they almost look like shell casings (maybe that’s the point?) but they fit in my mini bags perfectly. I wore Hawkind yesterday and it stayed on all day, didn’t smear over lunch, and didn’t dry out my lips so if you’re looking for a great creamy matte lipstick, this is for you! (in the picture today I’m wearing sanctuary)

I hope this has been a fun review that you can check on this Friday if you’d like! You know it’s the biggest shopping day LOL! (Both of these beauties are at Sephora!)

The Whole Naked 2 Palette

Hello Friends!

I’ve been conflicted lately! I love Urban Decay’s Naked 2 palette, but struggle using the other colors besides my four go to colors: bootycall, tease, snakebite, and half baked. These are all great, amazing, and flattering colors BUT I want to make use of the rest of the palette. It’s a pretty penny to use only four out of 12 colors. I mean REALLY!

So…in getting ready for my Halloween Morticia makeup, I discovered a smoky eye I can use three more colors on my Naked 2 palette! Yay! I use foxy on my lid, pistol on the crease and brow bone and black out in a “V” at the corner of my eye (pistol and blackout also under my eye).

But to give you the whole experience, I’m linking my YouTube video of the tutorial for all to see what I did and you too can use up more Naked 2 colors! It’s a win win!

Click the link to watch for yourself. Have a great week friends!

Naked 2 tutorial

Hair Saga

Hello friends and happy Sunday!

I thought I’d share some of my continuing hair ideas.

Most of you know I have hashimotos and struggle with fluctuating hair loss. A few months ago I purchased a couple of Halo extensions.

One problem I have is that if I’m not wearing the extensions, I need to pull my own hair up into a clip. Some of my hair is long and some about chin length due to frequent hair loss and then regrowth; it’s a constant struggle with autoimmune disease.

My thought is that I will cut my own hair so that sometimes I can have my own hair “out and about” or wearing a hat (which I love to do but can’t with the extensions) and sometimes I’ll wear my extensions (have long hair).

What do you all think of this? I know many people that wear different hair pieces depending on their mood.

One idea is this type of pixie cut which I’ve had before and I like. Another is Cate Blanchett’s hair in Oceans Eight (a new movie with Sandra Bullock). I’m leaning toward the blunt cut (Cate’s cut). It’s different and fun and then when I want long hair I can put on my extensions.

Here are some pictures to show what I mean. (Pixie cut courtesy of Victoria Beckham) I hope this helps anyone else who might be struggling with hair loss too. (BTW watch this movie-Oceans Eight, cause I love Cate Blanchett’s style and will be trying to copy her in some ways IRL 😂🤣)