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Summer Hair (I got a wig)

Hello friends and happy weekend!

I know I told you I would share my wardrobe tricks while on vacation in Peru, but something else happened!

While in Peru, I wore my two halo pieces every day until about 9pm. Normally at home I take them both off when I get off work. I do this because one piece attaches on top of my head with a monofilament wire, although maybe the hair is too heavy because this wire has been digging into my head, leaving a dent and sometimes causes my scalp to bleed. It’s been painful.

I’ve been wearing both of my halo pieces daily because for the last several months, my hair has been falling out at a terrific pace. It might be stress that made it worse, I honestly don’t know.

So I’ve been thinking of getting another wig. My hair loss was bad about 3 years ago and I got a wig then (it’s a short one though) and I’ve really got attached to long hair. It’s so fun!

So yesterday after work, I went to a local wig store called “Creative Wigs and Hair Replacement”. It’s a new store from the one I visited a few years ago, but I’ve learned since then not to be afraid of a wig store. The employees are so kind and just there to help women or men. (I think most women wear wigs due to hair loss and the employees are so sweet, some of them experiencing the same thing)

I was originally trying to find a wig similar to my halo (s). I tried on several. I think the human hair wigs were very nice and look super natural although they are VERY expensive -$2500. So I thought that was out of the market.

But then I tried on a really cute wig, it’s a tiny bit shorter, still long hair, kind of a beachy type of style……and it’s blonde!

So… I decided I love it and it doesn’t hurt my head! Yay! I also don’t have to worry about my hair loss because with a wig I don’t depend on my hair to hold the thing in place. I’m super happy and wanted to share my new look with you! Plus it’s summer and that calls for lighter hair! Now I just have to figure out how my drastic hair color change will work with my clothes! 😂 first world problems am I right??

Happy summer everyone!

If any of you are struggling with this same thing, hair loss- please know there are lots of options and it helps so much. Don’t be afraid to visit your local hair/wig store! Be brave ❤️

What’s Hair

Hello Friends and happy Friday! I hope everyone has some relaxation planned this weekend! I’ve mowed lawns and mopped floors this week, so that Saturday I can spend in my yard doing a little rose pruning. I think it will be relaxing 🙂

I’ve been following Rachel Hollis and have a strong interest in her Start Today Journal but have not bought said journal. She has a podcast detailing how to do the journal without actually buying one and I listened to that.

I finally decided to write down 10 of my dreams in the manner Rachel recommends.

The interesting thing about this exercise…I realized that none of my dreams have anything to do with my hair.

My hair (possibly in conjunction with my autoimmune disease-I am not sure) has been falling out at a terrific rate. I was a bit distressed by this until I went over my 10 dreams and got a little perspective.

One thing I realized, it’s not important, in the whole scheme of things whether my hair falls out or not.

I am an exceptional wife, mother and grandmother

I have XXXXX dollars in the bank

I am financially independent

I am a world traveler

I am a marathon bicyclist

I am spiritually connected to God

You see, there is nothing about my hair! There is also nothing about my looks. This was very helpful for me. I highly recommend Rachel Hollis system or really any of your choice that prompts you to list your goals in present stated form. I AM or I HAVE

We can all be our best person and that has nothing to do with my HAIR!

(I’m wearing my Halo in this picture FYI)

It’s A Colorful Spring

Hello friends and Happy Wednesday!

I was thinking of all the bright colors in my closet this spring and had a little giggle reflecting back to the movie “Devil Wore Prada”- “florals for spring? Groundbreaking”! LOL! I think spring is always full of bright, fun colors but for some reason I’m really rocking them (no matter what Miranda Priestly says- I don’t need her permission, I don’t work for her!)

So I thought I would share two of this week’s fun bright spring looks that I love (closet shopping win)!

First I couldn’t resist going all purple/pink on Monday! Seriously, who can resist such fun colors! Purple is actually my favorite color (I might not own enough purple items, that’s something I would love to fix). I wore pink slacks with a pink/blue/purple plaid blouse from JCPenney along with my purple Walmart espadrilles and a super cute lavender bag I snagged from Target. (All of these items are budget friendly-my JCPenney shopping usually involves a discount or coupon and obviously my Walmart shoes are not breaking the bank 😉

I LOVED LOVED being all pink and purple…I think I was more cheerful and pleasant (ok the sun was shining too) but color really seems to make me happy.

Then yesterday I had to wear more COLOR! Specifically I wore my bright poppin yellow slack, a floral/striped blouse, my super cute yellow polka dot kitten heels and a bold pink bag! I was feeling very bright and happy! My slacks, blouse, and bag are all JCPenney (bag and blouse are old) and my heels are a special find from DSW about a month ago. So far I’m trying to wear them as often as possible as they are so super cute and very comfy.

I hope these colorful looks are inspiring to you and give you the courage to try something fun for yourself. Don’t be afraid to wear what you want. You might inspire someone else too!

 

Devil Wore Prada clip

Dodging the Punches

Hey friends!

I thought I would share some of my difficulties lately and how I’m dodging the punches.

Someone very close to me is involved in the dissolution of her marriage due to a emotionally abusive spouse. Her spouse also knows my ex husband (I divorced him about 17 years ago).

I have found out that her husband and my ex shit talk about me throughout some family events (involving my adult children and grandchildren- those are most events I continue to be around my ex husband). I also found out that my ex inquired (to the person close to me) wondering if she was being unduly influenced to leave her husband by someone he did not name (I’m guessing it is me) and I have been super angry and negative being re exposed to abuse and emotional manipulation by my ex husband.

I have a difficult time managing this again, the negativity and emotions this stirs up is overwhelming for me.

I have a stressful job and do not need the additional negativity that this information affects me.

How do I manage? I have been focusing on things I can control to help myself. Can I control other people? No. Can I control outside events? No. Does other people’s shit have anything to do with me? No. If someone else is a douche, does that have to affect me? No.

Can I control what I focus on? Yes. About a week ago, I was listening to a podcast of Rachel Hollis interviewing Brendon Burchard. I was so impressed I subscribed (it’s FREE!)to Brendon’s podcast “The Brendon Show” and also bought his workbook “the high performance planner” and his book “High Performance Habits”. In 2018 Brendon reads his whole book as part of his podcast (so you can listen to his book for free!) and it’s so inspiring. It reminds me to live according to my own values. I especially like the planner and the ways I daily remind myself to set an intention, remind myself the person I want to be, a way to demonstrate excellence to myself, ways to coach myself through the day and ways to determine if I have been successful in my day (along with three goals to keep my focus every day).

This has been a huge support in dealing with this new situation and previous triggers from my abusive past marriage.

If any of you out there are struggling, I strongly suggest looking this up and listening. Everything will be ok, you can do it, you are strong enough, you are smart enough, you matter, you are important.

History of Brave Women

Hello Friends!

Happy Thursday! I was listening to a podcast this morning by Rachel Hollis-interviewing Lisa Kleypas discussing her writing career and historical events that shape women’s lives. I thought I would share some history of a brave woman I know.

My grandma Lindberg, Norma R Lindberg was born in 1920 and died in 2009 so I had time as an adult to get to know my grandma Lindberg. My other grandma, Faye H Dana died in 1982 and I didn’t get to know her as well as an adult; I was only 17 when she passed away from cancer.

My grandma waited until she was about 80 to share with me some of her history which I think is so fascinating. My grandma (I’ll just refer to her as Norma now) had a beau in high school- Merrill Taylor, but he went to war in I believe 1942. Norma was left at home and she is a beauty. She caught the attention of Wayne Call (Merrill’s friend) and he started courting her. One evening he invited her to attend a family party with him and he unexpectedly announced at the party that they were engaged (he had not actually asked her to marry him). So Norma felt pressured to accept him as her fiance even though she was still in love with Merrill. They married and soon therafter were expecting my mother, Carolyn.

My mother was born in 1944 and soon after her birth, Norma decided she would divorce Wayne because she was not happy and still in love with Merrill.  Norma lived in a small religious community in Wyoming and considering the culture at that time, she probably worried about judgments and people wagging their tongues but she stood up for herself. She was one brave woman and now alone with a child.

Merrill came home from the war and soon reconnected with Norma. They married in 1946 and soon added two more children to their little family. After the war, Merrill got a job as a lineman and traveled often (I’ve heard this, not really sure if that is correct. A lineman is someone who climbs power poles and repairs or installs power lines in areas). Merrill was doing this work in Kern California when he was electrocuted and killed in 1950. Norma was again alone with children.

Norma had always been an industrious woman. I am not sure if this is when she started working for (?) but she worked almost all her adult life. She lived with her father at some point while getting on her feet as a single parent. These were difficult times to begin with (after World War II), but a single mother with three children had to have been daunting.

She later is reacquainted with Wilton Lindberg, (also a friend of Merrill and Wayne- it’s a small community and these men refer to themselves as “The Swedes”) who is a widower-his young wife died after the birth of their second daughter. Norma and Wilton married and added a baby girl to the family. My mother is oldest, then Jackie (Wilton’s oldest daughter), then Irene and Jed (Merrill and Norma’s children), then Sherry (Wilton’s youngest daughter), and Laurie (daughter of Norma and Wilton). My wonderful grandmother Norma kept working throughout her life but was also an amazing cook, gardener (at one time had a acre garden), and housekeeper. Her food-canning and cooking are renown-especially a recipe for Red Velvet Cake. She always entered food or handsewn/sewing machine items (she was a talented quilter and crocheter) in the fair and often won first place ribbons.

Norma was very frugal, hard working, and saved all the money she could. When she passed away, she left her children and myself (I was included because I am the only living offspring of my mother, father, and siblings-passed away many years previous) but I am so blessed to know my grandma as an adult and appreciate how brave she is and how hard she worked to take care of herself and her children. I hope you appreciate hearing the history of a brave woman I admire-my grandmother Norma R Lindberg.

Mellow Yellow

Hello Friends and Happy Monday! You might ask, is Monday happy? How can that be? Well I didn’t have terrible traffic on the way to work, I was able to check all my emails and update my excel sheet before my two groups. I’m now able to create a blog post on my lunch hour, the sun is shining….that’s enough to make me happy! Actually, just the sunshine makes me happy, it’s been raining forever (I exaggerate a bit right?) LOL

So I wanted to share my discovery of the color yellow! I wore it a few times last summer but did not really throw myself into it. I just dipped my toe in the yellow shade with some other colors to balance it out. But this spring, I’m all in friends! ALL IN!

I discovered this awesome yellow (Pineapple-on the website) jacket and matching pants at JCPenney-Worthington and I was in love! Is it a lot of yellow? YES and that’s what makes it fun! It’s so bright and colorful you just can’t help but smile. I was deciding what to wear with it and I landed on this cute melon top (also JCPenney) that just makes all the yellow pop the more and added a melon lippie to go with it. I needed shoes too but have a white floral pump from OldNavy last year that is perfect with this spring look! (These items are also very affordable)

I got so many compliments that I was so happy I went out on a ledge to wear all yellow. It’s seriously the bomb and you will love the way you feel wearing all one bright color this spring! Try it out, you won’t regret!

Worthington Womens Classic Yellow Blazer

Worthington Ankle Pants

Times I Didn’t Listen (and why I’m proud)

Hello friends!

I’ve been listening/watching several inspirational speakers (Rachel Hollis, Ashley Lemieux, Mike Lemieux, and Stuart Edge) which is really pumping me up to be myself! ❤️

Today I thought I would share the times in my life that I DID NOT LISTEN to others opinions of me and that makes me proud of myself.

Many years ago in admiring (someone close to me-their coworker physical workout and body improvement) I said “I want to do that, I want to do what they did” – to which my loved one said- “you can’t do that, what makes you think you can”? To which I thought to myself-watch me, and then I’ll rub your nose in it.

Many years ago the same person (now not part of my life) said “no one’s going to want to marry you or date you, you’re old and have all these kids”- to which I thought- you’re an a$$hole-I’m worthy just the way I am, anyone would be happy to be in a relationship with me.

Several years ago, in speaking with a loved one (different one this tome) about my course work in graduate school, she said “you don’t really think you can be a therapist do you? You can’t do that”. To which I thought, you aren’t really in my corner are you and yes I can. (We haven’t had much of a relationship since).

A couple of years ago someone said “you can’t really be a blogger or have a fashion Instagram-why are you trying”? To which I thought, wow you don’t know me at all do you? I am already doing that.

And then there are the three times I listened: one person (not really close but a trusted adult) shamed me for my voice-“why do you always talk like a baby”, another person close to me (or so I thought) shamed me for my voice- almost exact words, and another time I listened…someone shamed me for posting on Facebook and Instagram (about several things) AND I listened.

I’m not listening anymore to the voices that tell me who they think I should be -THAT IS MY DECISION-and that is why I’m sharing this with you today.

2019 Doesn’t Like Me

Happy New Year friends! Seriously this is what I thought last week! (I have this thing against odd numbers!) but seriously I experienced some unexpected difficulties at work which hijacked my whole week of blogging and life as a hopeful-positive person. Life is hard sometimes but then I just have to keep going right??

So I thought instead of focusing on the negative parts of my week, I would share another closet shopping trip!

It started out as a cold day! Which should have clued me into the negative storm heading my way, but I digress…..

So I wanted to wear some warm leggings (sequin leggings from Express last year are what I decided on😂) YES Then I paired them with a thermal black shirt (tip for dressing warm) and a leopard dress from ASOS last year. I added my leather looking sneaks and my (actually this is new) deep green leather like moto jacket with faux fur collar from Express (at least it was 50% off) and a cute appliqué bag I snagged from Charming Charlie’s a couple years ago.

I stayed warm, I wore a flippin cute dress, and if you looked close- you could see sequins peeking out as I went about my work day. That’s almost enough to balance out a bad work week right??

YES

(My week in emojis)

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Finally Share my Hair

Hello friends and happy Sunday!

I hope you all have had a great weekend!

I finally decided to share another of my “hair” adventures. I blogged about possibly cutting my own hair about a week or so ago but I finally did it!

I got my own hair cut in a chin length bob type of style. I wanted to be able to leave my hair down when I wasn’t wearing my extensions (just cause I’m tired of doing the same thing everyday and sometimes the extensions hurt and I want a break). I also fatigued of my hair being in super tangles every morning- it was so fine and thin at the bottom.

So last Wednesday my stylist cut about five (?) inches off to where my hair is thicker ( as I lose hair and grow back hair- most of it is around ear length) so it looks thicker shorter.

Friday I bucked up enough courage to go to work WITHOUT MY EXTENSIONS! I know right?? I was super anxious but people around me are very kind and supportive and I’m so thankful as my hair is kind of a sensitive subject for me.

So I’m passing on my bravery to you my blogging buddies. Here are a couple pics of me and my own hair. Be Brave friends!