Category Archives: age positivity

Thankful for my Legs

Hello friends!

Happy Thursday! Can you believe it’s the end of September? It doesn’t feel like it here in Utah; it’s still a little warm.

I was walking the other day, trying to get in my 10,000 steps and over the time of my walk- I noticed feeling very thankful for my legs.

I have a couple of scars on my knees- one I don’t remember what happened but the other was a bicycle wreck when I was a teenager. Several years ago I hurt my left knee waterskiing and this year I hurt my right knee in another bicycle accident but no lasting effects from these incidents.

I can’t generally sit cross legged or kneel/squat for long periods as my knees and hips start to ache; but on the whole my legs have really taken me far and been so dependable.

I’m very thankful for the things my body does: such as biking on the river trail and lifting weights.

I think it’s important to focus on what our bodies do rather than what they look like. How about you?

Celebrate with Shorts

Hello Friends!

How was your weekend? I hope you and Monday are making peace with each other 🙂 Me and Mondays don’t always get along that why I wish this for you LOL

I thought I would share a new found discovery: I haven’t worn shorts in about 16 years. I think I was always a little self conscious and felt awkward about my legs but the last year or so I realize I need to let that go!

(Last year as I began my blog, I started wearing more dresses in the summer, kind of letting my legs out in the open) and I realize its fun and there is nothing wrong with my legs 🙂

So this year for my birthday, I got a gift card from my employer and I bought a straw tassel hat and a yellow striped ruffle sleeve shirt at Target and paired it with some destroyed denim shorts (the best deal ever for $3 at JCPenney)! Then I took a picture with my shorts on AND went out to dinner with the hubs with my shorts on! Is that celebrating or what??! I feel super accomplished taking this step and being less judgmental of myself.

Anyone want to join me and be less judgmental?? All aboard my self love train! Everyone is welcome and there is room! 🙂

Eyebrow Emergency

Hello Friends!

Happy Friday! Isn’t Friday the most wonderful day?? It’s sort of like Christmas Eve, the day before the best day of the week leading to my favorite days of the week. Friday is usually always a good day 🙂

I had an eyebrow emergency yesterday. I grabbed my eyebrow pencil, Anastasia Brow Whiz and tried to roll up the pencil, but nothing happened and I realized it was empty! NOOOOOOOO…..hence my emergency. There was a little nub that I managed to outline my brows but it was not the same LOL

So after work yesterday I quickly walked to Ulta (from parking lot/car) and found my favorite eye brow pencil.

I’ve learned that my eyebrows are not exactly alike and that’s ok. Someone once told me, “eyebrows are sisters, not twins” and I love remembering that. I’m adding pictures today of before I do my eyebrows, after I do my eyebrows, and then with my hair and lips done. I’ve noticed my right eyebrow has more of an arch and my left eyebrow is more straight, no matter what I do to try and make them the same, they want to do their own thing.  I’m exercising acceptance with my eyebrows LOL!

When younger, my eyebrows were thicker and I also did not have rosacea so I didn’t wear heavy foundation (most times I did not wear foundation at all). Now my eyebrows are a little thinner due to age or thyroid disease, I am not sure; so I pencil more in and it seems to also match my dyed hair. I dye my hair (I have a lot of gray) and right now I like my hair this color; I also like the red streaks, it’s fun. Maybe when I’m older, I will let it go gray, I’m not sure yet. I’ve also tried lighter foundations because my skin tone is originally fair, but rosacea has made my face and neck so red that the lighter tones on my face look odd against my dark (red) neck. So I wear a darker foundation (Estee Lauder Double Wear) and pencil in my brows so everything kind of matches.

I hope this helps anyone else who suffers from rosacea or age related eye brow thinning.

Thanks for reading Friends and Happy Friday!

100 Followers!

Hello Friends!! This deserves it’s own post right?? I’m super excited to have each of you as followers on my blogging journey and thankful you take the time to read.

I think blogging might be a little like life in some ways. It takes time to accomplish big goals, like graduating college or getting your dream job. I’ve been blogging less than a year but as I try to think up at least three entries a week, I am challenged and sometimes inspired. Hopefully more times inspired LOL! I really wanted to make this work for me and be a sort of outlet (self care in some ways) for my thoughts about aging, fashion, work, women, fashion (again) and life in general.

I’m super excited to hit this milestone, although will continue to blog my way to a different age and different challenges! Thanks for reading friends!

Haute for Pink (but does IT REALLY MATTER)

Hello friends!

Some times I have random thoughts such as “do I wear too much pink”? Normally I’m the last one to leave the house in the mornings and it’s even not a question I can ask my husband because he has no opinion on what color I wear LOL

But I have to remember….it is vital to remember IT DOES NOT MATTER! LOL I could wear pink or green or a dress or a skirt and IT DOES NOT MATTER!

I think I could probably wear pink pants, pink shirt, pink jacket, pink shoes with pink bag and earrings and IT STILL WOULD NOT MATTER!

These are my thoughts for the day, when you have those judgmental things pop up in your mind (such as: am I too fat, can someone see this zit, does my hair look funny, am I wearing too much pink, can someone see my wrinkles?)….say to yourself IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT I THINK and then wear what you want, ignore that zit, ignore what the media says you should weigh or ignore judgments about your hair or age or makeup or skin or feet. This will help, I promise.

Just to show it does not matter, I’m attaching photos of the day I thought I wore too much pink…I don’t think my thoughts about that mattered.

Summertime

Hello friends!!

How is everyone this fine Saturday?? I’m having a lovely four day weekend with my hubby! We drove to St George Utah for our anniversary and are just hanging out, visiting Zion National Park, went to a concert at Tuacahn (David Archuleta!) and are having a good time 😍

Yesterday before the concert we drove to Zion National Park and hiked a couple trails- (at one point we passed a couple girls taking selfies and one said to the other- “that shows your chubby arms”?? as I walked by them I told her”you do not have chubby arms”!-be positive about your body friends!) seriously people I’m in heaven -it was gorgeous! I’ll add some pictures!

Anyway we got to the concert; before it started we discussed what to do the next day and I want to do more hiking- hubs does not and I ask him “do u want to live”?? At our age (hubs is older than me) we need to keep active so I figure I’m extending and improving his quality of life by making him hike when he would rather sit! 😂😂 oh my goodness!

So at Tuacahn we saw David Archuleta and I had so much fun! He really has a beautiful voice; he did some of his new album “Postcards in the Sky” some of his older songs, a medley of “Greatest Show”, a song from Lion King II, “If I Could Only Imagine”-originally by Mercy Me and it was a wonderful concert (thanks to my son Connor for tickets!)

Today we are headed back to Zion, do some more hiking, get some grub, stop and visit family, and then maybe hang out at the pool.

It’s a beautiful morning friends! Have a great weekend!

MoviePass Review (and other musings on being a woman)

Hello Friends!

Happy Weekend! What’s everyone doing??

I did something interesting this morning.

It all started about a week ago. I’m a huge movie buff (I think you can already tell, sometimes I dress to match my movies LOL) I had heard my co worker’s friends had a movie app with unlimited movies, I thought that might be my THING. So I cruised through the app store on my iPhone and tada! Up popped MoviePass…I signed up to pay $9.95 a month in exchange for free pass to a movie a day. Sounds about my speed right??

It took about a week to get our MoviePass card (you download the app and then MoviePass sends you a card, like a credit card-with my name and a number) you register your card on your app, then head to a theatre. There are many in my area affiliated with MoviePass. Outside the theatre, I check in (on my app) for the movie and time I want to see, then head inside to pay at the kiosk for my seat.

We saw the new Tomb Raider movie with Alicia Vikander at 10:30am (I know I vowed to lay in my bed til lunchtime but I was excited to use my MoviePass-haha). It was a fun movie (lots of action and twists in the plot) except I kept comparing it to Lara Croft: Tomb Raider with Angelina Jolie. I just think Angelina Jolie is a badA compared to Alicia Vikander. Jolie has this attitude and she’s sort of like a superhero-I mean she is behind sled dogs racing a crumbling structure without a sled?? Nobody else knows how to figure out the riddles except her (well Alicia does that too, that’s true)-but I can’t give things away for those of you who haven’t seen it. It’s fun and worth seeing. I’ve included a pic of me and hubs as we left the theatre 🙂

I sit and wonder how can Angelina or Alicia kick butt like they do in movies and be so freakin tiny? I think that is one thing that contributes to women/girls perception that thinness is more important than everything else. Wonder Woman is pretty thin too, have you seen Gal Gadot? Regular women do not look like that; I think Hollywood does women a disservice. I have a friend that does crossfit and really I think she could be Tomb Raider. She has muscles, like real muscles. I think if Hollywood wants to show me a crimefighting, world saving, smart woman; please oh please let her be real. I know lots of real women that save the world and are smart and fight crime. Let’s have a real woman as a role model OK?

Sobbing Hysterically

Hello friends!

Have any of you seen “Something’s Gotta Give”?? I know it’s an old movie but (spoiler here!) in the middle when he is a schmuck and she gets hurt- spending 10 minutes of the movie sobbing dramatically (excellently I might add) which I love every time I watch it and giggle the whole way through! It’s one of my favorite movies!

It was also International Women’s Day yesterday and I thought this is a great movie for women! The heroine in the movie is smart, provides for herself, is amazingly funny, beautiful, talented, and everyone wants to be around her! It’s one of my favorite movies, you gotta check it out!

Have a happy weekend everyone! Thanks for reading!

(Enclosed are pictures of my two daughters and I- all of us fierce women 😉

It’s all perspective-what is the truth?

Hello friends!

Happy Wednesday! I hope all of your weeks are going well so far 🙂 The only thing I don’t like about my week is the snow but I mean it is still winter technically so it will snow LOL!

I think all of you know that I’m a therapist right? Well every Tuesday I run a eating disorder/body image group here at work. Yesterday we watched a short video created by Dove that I love. It’s on YouTube and I will post a link here.

The idea of the video is that several women are asked to describe themselves to a FBI sketch artist (he doesn’t actually ever see them, he is behind a curtain facing away from them) and he sketches them based on their description of themselves; he then sketches another view of them from a stranger that has spent (15 minutes?) talking to them. Watch the video, it’s amazing!

We spent time in group discussing how our own perspective of ourselves is distorted and I think this happens with every day people. I had a co worker remark to me yesterday, “That’s such a cute outfit, you always dress so cute. I don’t think I could ever dress like that” (or something similar, maybe I don’t remember her exact words) and I disagree. I think we sometimes get too worried about what other people will think (based on our own distorted perspective). Case in point: One day I wore two prints (it was last summer and I just jumped on the mixing prints trend) and I previously planned to wear two coordinated prints but one day I wore a different bottom with the printed top (they didn’t actually match) but I didn’t realize it until I got my pajamas on that night. It was odd when I realized I had been all day without matching…no one said anything and I didn’t realize the patterns were off…SO DOES IT REALLY MATTER IF I DON’T CARE?? This is my question….if you don’t worry about it, does it matter? I think we can apply this to any area.

Does anyone notice the back of my hair where two curls leave a gap? Does anyone notice the zit I covered on my face? Does anyone notice if my hair isn’t washed today? Does anyone notice that I think I’ve gained weight? Does anyone notice what size I wear? Does anyone notice I haven’t exercised for days? Does anyone notice I didn’t shower today?Does anyone care about my age or wrinkles? Does anyone notice my eyebrows aren’t the same? Does anyone notice I have a big head and most hats don’t fit my head? (No one notices, no one cares)

I challenge each of you to wear something you didn’t think you could, to be yourself, to speak up, to challenge the thoughts you have about yourself and be more gentle 🙂 Watch the video and change your perspective!

Dove Real Beauty Sketch Artist

Excited Pink

Hello Friends!

I am finally feeling a bit better! Yay! I seriously have to consider getting the flu shot this coming fall, that hit me real bad…hope it doesn’t ever happen again!

I got to wear the pretty red/pink sweater that I got from Target awhile ago! I originally got this sweater to wear with a floral black/pink/red skirt but I have to wear it with other things right?? An item of clothing needs to be flexible to work in many different ensembles! I love this sweater because it striped, combines hot red/pink, and has some real pretty ruffles on the shoulder which makes it unique.

So I had to wear it today, but wanted to use some creativity in putting an outfit together…(black pants would be too simple right??) So I paired with my pink Express fitted jeans, my black OTK suede boots, and then in a moment of impulsivity grabbed my Desuigal bag (pink, red, camo, black-remember I snagged it at the Dallas airport in a frenzied moment between flights?? I felt so accomplished to find something so darling at such a random time and 40% off)-Score!

I have so much fun wearing something that’s a little out of the ordinary and it helps to make up for my still constant headache….(I’m sure it will eventually go away)…

Later today after work I got my hair done courtesy of my talented niece Bronwyn at Suggestions Salon in Orem Utah. While waiting for the dye to cure (?) I leafed through some magazines and saw some real fun and creative (styles) to combine for some interesting outfits. I love discovering new inspiration for clothes, it’s just really fun and then my brain starts whirring through all my clothes trying to figure out new creations to showcase my personality. Don’t you think each of our own fashion choices should give a clue to our personality? No matter a person’s age, I think yes is the correct answer! After a nice wash and scalp massage (maybe this is key to de-stress?), I realized my headache was gone, so that is such a blessing that I don’t even have a headache anymore or wobegone roots! What a great way to end my day! Have a happy Tuesday night/hump day tomorrow! We are halfway through the week!! (I added a link to this gorgeous sweater)!

Women’s Striped 3/4 Sleeve Shoulder Frill Crew