Failure: A Therapist View

Hello friends and happy Tuesday! I hope you all had a great holiday weekend!

I’ve been thinking about life challenges and want to share some of my therapist views …for free ā¤ļø

I think life is hard at different times for all of us and we might often feel like a failure if things in our lives don’t go as we think they “should” or as we “expected”.

At times like these we feel a failure. BUT it’s super important to remember that feeling like a failure-is a feeling and it’s not a fact. Shoulds, expectations, and comparisons are not helpful in our lives, are actually detrimental, and cause us to second guess ourselves and our value as human beings.

One of my favorite TED talks is “How to Practice Emotional First Aid” by Guy Winch. It’s amazing and I’ve shared it with many clients. Look it up-live it.

When we feel like a failure, we normally stop what we’re doing. We give up; then that emotion wins! It’s just an emotion.

As long as we keep pushing toward future goals, we never fail.

If you feel like a failure, just remember I am rooting for you. We are all doing the best we can. You are not a failure.

Guy Winch-Ted Talk Emotional First Aid

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Simple Outfits for a Win!

Hello friends!

Happy Memorial Day weekend! I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.

I thought I would share a couple simple outfits that are classy and have some personality! You know outfits with personality are one of my favorite ways to dress šŸ™‚ Both outfits showcase white shirts, just because I think white is a great color to wear in the heat of summer.

The first two outfits show the same peasant embroidered shirt. One day I wore it with raw edge ankle crop jeans and a camo jacket (cause it was quite cold) and another day I wore it with high waisted wide leg crop jeans (same wedges each time) and I can’t decide which outfit I like more! I really like the shirt with camo as it’s such a juxtaposition of styles which really speaks to me! I love the opposite idea….a lovely peasant embroidered shirt, so genteel and delicate/dainty with the tough look of camo. It’s like saying “you really don’t know me at all, I’m a lady AND don’t underestimate me! LOL it’s such fun!

Then the next two outfits, I’m wearing a basic button up white shirt (with a little bit of texture) with shorts AND some cropped striped pants. Either are fun and provide a little bit different personality to fit different plans for your day. I have worn short to work before but I always try to pair it with something really fancy to dress them up. Typically shorts would be a weekend outfit idea or for a summer holiday. The cropped striped pants can also be a weekend outfit, summer holiday or work outfit.

I love the idea of an interesting white top/shirt (all these items are super affordable and on sale at JCPenney) to dress anything up or make an outfit simple AND fun!

It’s A Colorful Spring

Hello friends and Happy Wednesday!

I was thinking of all the bright colors in my closet this spring and had a little giggle reflecting back to the movie “Devil Wore Prada”- “florals for spring? Groundbreaking”! LOL! I think spring is always full of bright, fun colors but for some reason I’m really rocking them (no matter what Miranda Priestly says- I don’t need her permission, I don’t work for her!)

So I thought I would share two of this week’s fun bright spring looks that I love (closet shopping win)!

First I couldn’t resist going all purple/pink on Monday! Seriously, who can resist such fun colors! Purple is actually my favorite color (I might not own enough purple items, that’s something I would love to fix). I wore pink slacks with a pink/blue/purple plaid blouse from JCPenney along with my purple Walmart espadrilles and a super cute lavender bag I snagged from Target. (All of these items are budget friendly-my JCPenney shopping usually involves a discount or coupon and obviously my Walmart shoes are not breaking the bank šŸ˜‰

I LOVED LOVED being all pink and purple…I think I was more cheerful and pleasant (ok the sun was shining too) but color really seems to make me happy.

Then yesterday I had to wear more COLOR! Specifically I wore my bright poppin yellow slack, a floral/striped blouse, my super cute yellow polka dot kitten heels and a bold pink bag! I was feeling very bright and happy! My slacks, blouse, and bag are all JCPenney (bag and blouse are old) and my heels are a special find from DSW about a month ago. So far I’m trying to wear them as often as possible as they are so super cute and very comfy.

I hope these colorful looks are inspiring to you and give you the courage to try something fun for yourself. Don’t be afraid to wear what you want. You might inspire someone else too!

 

Devil Wore Prada clip

Laughter, the Best Medicine

Hello friends and happy Thursday!

I just had to share something hilarious from last night.

Our daughter and her two children (age 8 and 4) are living with us. It’s been a big change for all of us and we often have such fun!

Last night my husband came home late from work; he’s been working long hours the last couple of weeks and I think the grandchildren miss seeing him because they go to bed around 8pm. So last night after arriving home, hubs is in the bathroom and my four year old grandson is really anxious to see grandpa!

He is standing outside the bathroom yelling to his grandpa….and we can hear the whole conversation….

“Grandpa unlock the door”….”just a minute bud, I’m almost done”

“Grandpa are you done”? ….”just a minute bud, I just got home from work”

” Grandpa Are you wiping“???!! (SILENCE)…..

OH MY HECK I COULD NOT STOP LAUGHING!! THIS WAS A EPIC LAUGH TOO!

I IMMEDIATELY SENT A TEXT MESSAGE TO HUBS IN THE BATHROOM….ARE YOU WIPING???? LOL

This comedic moment brought to you by my sweet four year old grandson. You are welcome.

Iā€™m A Fan

Hello friends and happy Wednesday!

I know you all love Wednesday the same as I do because it’s the halfway point through the work week!

So the other day I was mistaken for a MLBB fan. True- I was wearing my Boston Red Sox tee- but it’s the cutest Tee and in a great color-RED and that was my reason for buying it šŸ˜‚

I have been to Boston before and my visit was amazing. I fell in love with that great city. I even took a cool tour that passed Fenway Park- sweet right?? So it’s not like I’m not a fan of Boston- I just don’t think I’ve ever quite watched a Red Sox game on TV.

I’m an in person kind of fan- I would rather see a team play AT THE FIELD- IN THE STANDS! Know what I mean??

I do like baseball, basketball, and football and sometimes other sports; but if I’m wearing a Tee- it’s because the Tee is super cute or I’m headed to a game and I want to rock the team colors.

So here is my outfit from the other day when a Boston Red Sox rival noticed my tee and I had an awkward conversation not even mentioning why I really bought the shirt! šŸ˜³šŸ˜‚

Feeling Very Mellow in my Yellow

Hello Friends and Happy Monday!

It’s the first Monday in May! I’m so excited for warmer weather! My yard is coming back to life and I love all the new blooms and leaves. Spring is such a wonderful time.

I thought I would share my love for yellow this season! I invested in several yellow pieces: yellow blazer and pants along with yellow lace dress from JCPenney, and yellow polka dot pumps from DSW. I think I’ve worn one of these pieces at least twice a week since I’ve added them to my closet! How fun is that? I love to take pieces and just wear them on repeat with SEVERAL other items. It makes me feel very creative and a smartie pants when I do this.

So here I am sharing my several mellow yellow outfits! This might just be my favorite color this year!!