Hello Friends and Happy Hump Day!
I have a new schedule the last couple of weeks and I’m just trying to get used to it, please don’t mind my absence from blogging. Soon I will get the hang of it and be posting regularly like usual.
I thought I would share my love of polka dot! While on a trip to Boise to visit family almost two weeks ago, I discovered at DSW the most amazingly cute little polka dot pumps you have ever seen! I mean a good pump is a great purchase (it must have a perfect heel and be comfortable) but a pump with ton of flair AND those two options is a great find!
Here is the Anne Klein Fayza Pump! It comes in lemon yellow polka dot fabric and black snakeprint faux leather, and let me tell you it’s so comfy and cute! First the heel is so dainty and feminine, while also great to walk, then the ankle strap with buckle is wide and so visually stunning.
I saw this gorgeous shoe from one aisle over and had to run to the other side because it was so freakin cute. Unfortunately the store did not have my size, but I promptly went online and ordered my size. I couldn’t wait for it to arrive so I could wear it!
Here is a link to find your own darling shoe in yellow polka dot. You are welcome my friends 🙂
Anne Klein Fayza Pump
I took a break from work for a few days and took a much needed road trip but now I’m back!
Before my days off, (exactly four days before) I was pulled over by one of our finest police officers due to a confusion about my speed in a school zone. Confusion because I was sure I had not been speeding and he said “I clocked you at 26” and laughed 😂😂
I didn’t really think it was THAT funny- my life has been difficult lately (although I didn’t think I was particularly mournful that morning) so without a word I gave him my registration and license while waiting for the bad news 😳😥
He came back to my car reassuring me…? “Now Ms (F) this is just a warning, you don’t have to do anything” (a warning? I’m confused) and he continued “you don’t need to do anything, just be careful and try to have a better day” he said very kindly.
I’m still confused and a little shell shocked- what happened that he just gave me a warning? I actually have never got a warning before- I usually deserve the speeding tickets I’ve got (6 years ago was the last time) but I didn’t cry or anything?
But I’m grateful that someone somewhere knew I needed a break or a warning or just a kind word. Thank you kind police officer.
Just to make sure I’m not looking overly haggard or pitiful, I bought some under eye concealer cause sometimes you just need to look like EVERYTHING IS FINE 😊
Enclosed are two different pictures of me with “Bye Bye Undereye” concealer from IT Cosmetics.
I thought I would share some of my difficulties lately and how I’m dodging the punches.
Someone very close to me is involved in the dissolution of her marriage due to a emotionally abusive spouse. Her spouse also knows my ex husband (I divorced him about 17 years ago).
I have found out that her husband and my ex shit talk about me throughout some family events (involving my adult children and grandchildren- those are most events I continue to be around my ex husband). I also found out that my ex inquired (to the person close to me) wondering if she was being unduly influenced to leave her husband by someone he did not name (I’m guessing it is me) and I have been super angry and negative being re exposed to abuse and emotional manipulation by my ex husband.
I have a difficult time managing this again, the negativity and emotions this stirs up is overwhelming for me.
I have a stressful job and do not need the additional negativity that this information affects me.
How do I manage? I have been focusing on things I can control to help myself. Can I control other people? No. Can I control outside events? No. Does other people’s shit have anything to do with me? No. If someone else is a douche, does that have to affect me? No.
Can I control what I focus on? Yes. About a week ago, I was listening to a podcast of Rachel Hollis interviewing Brendon Burchard. I was so impressed I subscribed (it’s FREE!)to Brendon’s podcast “The Brendon Show” and also bought his workbook “the high performance planner” and his book “High Performance Habits”. In 2018 Brendon reads his whole book as part of his podcast (so you can listen to his book for free!) and it’s so inspiring. It reminds me to live according to my own values. I especially like the planner and the ways I daily remind myself to set an intention, remind myself the person I want to be, a way to demonstrate excellence to myself, ways to coach myself through the day and ways to determine if I have been successful in my day (along with three goals to keep my focus every day).
This has been a huge support in dealing with this new situation and previous triggers from my abusive past marriage.
If any of you out there are struggling, I strongly suggest looking this up and listening. Everything will be ok, you can do it, you are strong enough, you are smart enough, you matter, you are important.
Hello and Happy Wednesday!
I thought I would share a new fun color combination that I just love!
I follow (subscribe) to WhoWhatWear- it’s a really trendy fun line of clothing (some of which is carried by Target) but they have a big IG presence and always have fun articles on new trends or fun colors to wear.
One of the recent color combinations they highlighted that I love is mint green with red, pink or blue. I thought that was really fun and so creative!
Then the other day I was in JCPenney and discovered the cutest striped pastel blouse and of course I eventually decided to pair it with pastel pink slacks! So many fun pastels to brighten up the day! (Of course I had to wear pink sandals and a pink heart necklace along with my classic Betsy Johnson pink/cream bag with big bow!) I was feeling very understated today 😜
AND I LOVED IT! So try out the pastel trend for yourself! I think you will love it!